What would YOU have to do to SAH?

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Registered: 04-22-2005
What would YOU have to do to SAH?
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Fri, 02-13-2009 - 5:09pm

If you're a WOH/WAH mom, what sort of "downsizing" would you need to do in order to afford to be a SAHM? (SAHM defined here as not earning any money)

For me, I would have to put all our non-essential possessions in storage and move in with my parents.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 2:13pm
Speaking for our school, parental involvement would not be necessary for children to achieve at the basic level you describe.
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Registered: 08-29-2002
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 2:14pm

Have there been any studies done on the effectiveness of these approaches? Communications in multiple languages would be beyond the capabilities of my kids' school (for obvious reasons), but all immigrants have a right to free Swedish language learning at the local community colleges. Most do get up to some speed in Swedish sooner or later, but I suspect that, like me, it will never be enough to enable them to help with much of the homework that is given out.

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Registered: 02-22-2007
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 2:16pm

>> Exactly, which is reasonable - but requiring straight A's is not IMO. <<

What I expect from my kids is for them to get the best grade they are capable of getting while putting forth maximum effort. If that's an A, then that's great. If that's a C, then that's great too.

For them, it happens to be mostly As and some Bs. If it weren't, that would be fine too - as long as they were trying their hardest and not just slacking off or blowing it off.


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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 2:16pm

<<Well, to the extent that having middle-class, educated parents is an advantage, kids in middle class schools have that advantage. Private schools around here are mainly for middle-class parents who can afford it. If you're talking about other advantages, sure. >>


Having middle class educated parents in a more middle class district is an assumption, it would have to be more than an assumption to count it an advantage.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 2:17pm

Yes, well said, well said.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 01-12-2004
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 2:22pm

I am not an expert on the subject.

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Registered: 02-22-2007
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 2:22pm

>> In many cases, children are capable of doing the project at home with supervision and guidance from the parents, but mimimal involvment with the actual work. <<

In my house, the help I provide on science projects is mainly making sure ODS doesn't blow anything up or cause himself an injury requiring first aid.

Sigh.


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Registered: 02-22-2007
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 2:24pm

>> It's this "everyone should do this" attitude that makes me really really disagree with you. If you want to help your child, fine. Great. But saying that ALL parents should is something you have no basis to say/do. <<

I'm with you on this.

I'm available when my kids are doing their homework IF they have a question or need something clarified. If they don't, then I'm not going to butt in, because that just irritates them.


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Registered: 02-22-2007
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 2:26pm

>> If the school starts using parent volunteers instead of paid, trained and educated employees, then what's next? <<

In our school district, teachers have to rely on unpaid parent volunteers because there are no funds to pay for teaching assistants.


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Registered: 04-14-2003
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 2:26pm
thanks; i was looking under board settings and (the surprisingly unhelpful) about the boards link. as i thought, i don't have anyone on ignore, so there must be a glitch somewhere.

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