What would YOU have to do to SAH?

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What would YOU have to do to SAH?
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Fri, 02-13-2009 - 5:09pm

If you're a WOH/WAH mom, what sort of "downsizing" would you need to do in order to afford to be a SAHM? (SAHM defined here as not earning any money)

For me, I would have to put all our non-essential possessions in storage and move in with my parents.

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Registered: 01-20-2009
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 12:41pm
Expecting teachers to teach all the basics to each and every student isn't a realistic solution.
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Registered: 02-05-2009
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 12:45pm
now see in my house -- the teacher was always right -- never us and never the parents LOL -- I listen to my admin assistant talking to her 16 year old son about his teachers and hear her say "she's an idiot" or "he's a tool" or "they don't know anything" and I think -- wow-- way to instill respect for the teachers there ...
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Registered: 02-24-2009
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 12:46pm
That is where we disagree. Those who are willing and able are free to go above and beyond, but I do not believe that basic education should be structured in such a way that it relies on direct parental involvement in the instructional process in order to function.
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Mon, 03-02-2009 - 12:47pm
I think it's "hopeless naivete" to expect schools to give each and every child a basic education without parental or guardian support.
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Registered: 01-20-2009
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 12:50pm
My son's fourth grade teacher reguarly e-mails the parents about large assignments, and also posts them on Blackboard.
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Registered: 02-05-2009
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 12:52pm
tough. It's HER responsiblity. he has an assignment notebook - we don't email or blackboard at st catherine's BECAUSE THEY WANT THE KIDS TO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY -- period. They have to write it down and remember it. If SHE blew it then SHE blew it not me. I asked her a few more times, she said'momma I know when it's due an dit's not tomorrow" I said ok but if you're wrong then YOU"RE wrong not me. I"m not calling a teacher or other parents -- Liza is nearly 10 she can roll with this one and if she fails then SHE fails not me.
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Mon, 03-02-2009 - 12:54pm
PS what would be te worst that happens? She fails this assignment? So what? I doesn't mean I fail...it doesnt' mean her teacher is going to call saying "you horrible mother why didn't you hold her and and ride herd on her .." no her teacher (who I worship by the way ) is goign to say "liza , you blew it, you have to pay better attention" just like she does on the assignmentss she screws up. i could care less how it reflects on me -- which I'm sure will suprise exactly no one here.
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Mon, 03-02-2009 - 12:55pm

>> In this economy many people who are out of work are actively trying to find a job during the day. <<

You did see where I said "when they're not out looking for work," didn't you?


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Registered: 01-20-2009
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 12:58pm
What would you do if even one of your 6 needed 3 hours of help each night?
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Registered: 02-24-2009
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 12:58pm

I really don't. Long time ago, I had an old guy doing PT work for me. Of all the people working for me, the rest were college students, he was the only one who was able to read correctly and write coherently. When I asked where he went to school, he was embarrassed. It turned out that he had left school after the 8th grade, because his family was poor and his stepfather thought it was a complete waste to have a 14yo sitting in school. What schooling he had was in a public school on NYC's lower east side. His parents were immigrants with limited English skills. He was not particularly intelligent.

I am convinced that not only is it possible, but also necessary, to provide a functioning, basic education for all. We are increasingly moving towards a situation of haves and have-nots where education is concerned and we can not afford to have this happen.

Your ambition is to have your kids achieve on a level much higher than basic, and you have the education, dedication and resources to make that happen. But the kids who do not have parents like you should still be provided a fighting chance by the public school system.

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