What would YOU have to do to SAH?

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What would YOU have to do to SAH?
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Fri, 02-13-2009 - 5:09pm

If you're a WOH/WAH mom, what sort of "downsizing" would you need to do in order to afford to be a SAHM? (SAHM defined here as not earning any money)

For me, I would have to put all our non-essential possessions in storage and move in with my parents.

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Registered: 02-05-2009
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 2:40pm

You didn't ask me, but I'm going to answer anyway, lol. Because I think it's an interesting question.


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No, I'm not. Instead, I'd hire a tutor, arrange extra time with the teacher, look at changing schools (if the teaching method or curriculum weren't a good fit for my child), or make other changes that accomplished the purpose without 3 hours of my involved time every night.

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Registered: 01-20-2009
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 2:40pm

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She and her DH knew already that none of her children would require a lot of homework help before they were even in kindergarten? How is that being "proactive"?

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Registered: 01-20-2009
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 2:41pm
What would you do if she didn't respond to "shape up" and you had to progress to discipline? I know you won't say, "Take away TV time."
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Registered: 02-06-2009
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 2:41pm
Very easily. She has an agenda book. Either my dh or myself needs to look it over and make sure she has done everything in the book. She will show us the homework she has done. We do not look it over for mistakes or sign it but make sure it has been done.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 2:42pm

Ah yes, because sports are not relevant iyo.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 02-05-2009
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 2:42pm
Yup-- the teacher rules -- do your own work, remember your own assignments, don't whine and make excuses if you forget one, ask for help when you need it, and if there's something you don't understand go ask the teacher but don't ask mom or dad to ask the teacher. My parents were both teachers -- my mom routinely failed kids for forgetting a homework assignment, she lived by the "look it up' response when asked how to spell a word or whatit meant - and she taught high school profoundly deaf students with many learning challenges -- she expected we take full responsibility for our work and nothing less.
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 2:43pm

this isn't necessarily directed to you but wanted to jump in and say that i think communication,relationships only grow the more a parent is proactive in parenting and education.

 

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Registered: 02-06-2009
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 2:43pm
IMO that is still not appropriate for a teacher to do, talk to another mother about a friends child. I would not want someone else telling my child's teacher about them without my knowledge and approval
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 2:43pm

That's a shame, at least for number one.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 2:45pm

I noticed that as well, lol.


I have pulled my kids out, but not for missed homework assignments and it's only happened twice in all the years.

PumpkinAngel

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