What would YOU have to do to SAH?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-22-2005
What would YOU have to do to SAH?
2476
Fri, 02-13-2009 - 5:09pm

If you're a WOH/WAH mom, what sort of "downsizing" would you need to do in order to afford to be a SAHM? (SAHM defined here as not earning any money)

For me, I would have to put all our non-essential possessions in storage and move in with my parents.

Photobucket

pregnancy calendar








Photobucket

Photobucket




Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2009
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 2:45pm
actually I probably would take that away. I'd take that away before i'd take away rehearsals. this fall she and I arranged with her teacher to give her two sets of papers each night so she could have a practice one since she's so hasty and a real one she turned in -- she only needed that for a little while before she started to turn things around. But LIZA asked for that and her teacher agreed -- I didn't go intefer for her -- she and I talked about a good solution, she came up with it, asked for it and did what she needed to do.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-20-2009
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 2:46pm

I disagree. I'm a partner with my childrens' teachers in my sons' educations, and I want to understand their long term assignments.


Peter had a month to complete 3 aspects of his project for Scouts.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 2:46pm

I don't think so, I would be genuinely concerned if my children needed 3 hours of my constant attention, a night to complete elementary school homework.


PumpkinAngel

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2009
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 2:46pm
Liza is responsible for adding her rehearsal schedule into her planner an her chorus practices too.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 2:47pm

....if I remember correctly, her parents were teachers.


PumpkinAngel

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-20-2009
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 2:47pm
Suit yourself. I'm more than willing to do that. I'd even take vacation time from work to make time.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-29-2002
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 2:48pm

"You want to say that parents like your DH's weren't part of his education just because they didn't volunteer in schools or check his homework??? I'm sorry, but you have no clue how learning works."

And you, apparently, have absolutely no clue what this debate was about. It wasn't about parents feeding, clothing, and providing children with basic life skills (hardly trivial! feel free to quote the post where I said such skills were trivial); it was about schools expecting direct parental participation in homework, school life and the teaching of formal subjects such as reading, writing and mathematics. The fact that you had to stretch the meaning of "parental involvement in formal education" to the point of absurdity by including toilet-training, speaking abilities and manners in a discussion about formal education just demonstrates how badly you have misunderstood the entire discussion.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-20-2009
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 2:48pm
You can, if you're willing to enforce his need to turn in completed homework with a consequence too painful for him to ignore.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-06-2009
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 2:49pm

6 hours? PNJ did say 3 hours and even if she was speaking about both kids, why couldn't that still be in the same 3 hours?


<

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2009
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 2:49pm
Liza is a big last minute do-er but she's getting better-- if she stresses out it's not pleasant believe me but I'm also not going to continue to try to make the world constanly smooth and wonderful for liza just so we can all avoid Liza's stress outs... she freaked big time over a science test she had forgotten about and I thought "great she'll get a bad grade and learn her lesson" and then the little stinker got an A -- damn it -- lesson thwarted.

Pages