What would YOU have to do to SAH?

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Registered: 04-22-2005
What would YOU have to do to SAH?
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Fri, 02-13-2009 - 5:09pm

If you're a WOH/WAH mom, what sort of "downsizing" would you need to do in order to afford to be a SAHM? (SAHM defined here as not earning any money)

For me, I would have to put all our non-essential possessions in storage and move in with my parents.

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Registered: 02-05-2009
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 3:03pm
*clap clap*
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 3:04pm

I have had to exaggerate to make my point, but the bottom line is I absolutely disagree that teachers can effectively teach children without relying on parents to be part of the process.

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Registered: 02-05-2009
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 3:04pm
I can't predict we'd do in those cases.
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Registered: 02-05-2009
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 3:08pm

What is with the implication that three hours online would be what I'd be sacrificing?

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Registered: 02-06-2009
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 3:09pm
Why is rehearsal the last thing to get cut?
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Registered: 02-05-2009
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 3:09pm
There are plenty of days when dd has 2 hours of homework.
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Registered: 11-08-2006
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 3:12pm

i certainly never sat and "held his hand", but I had to be in or near the room that he was in. Usually, I was preparing dinner or sitting at the table with him reading a book while he did his work.

His telling the teacher that he didn't have his work wouldn't have made any difference at all. I took the hard stance at home -- homework MUST be done. No excuses.

eileen

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Registered: 02-06-2009
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 3:15pm

Exactly.

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 3:16pm

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I did that every time I had to change a grade level in science (each has its own separate curriculum) and when I had to teach an afterschool math class.

eileen

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Registered: 08-29-2002
Mon, 03-02-2009 - 3:17pm

Teachers can absolutely be expected to teach children how to read, write and understand basic mathematics without requiring parents to be in any way directly involved in homework (either monitoring or assisting) or in school activities (volunteering, etc.). It's done all the time in other countries.

"I don't think that a system designed with the expectation that no parents will be involved could ever be the ideal system that you and others think it would be."

That's all very well and good, but has absolutely nothing to do with what I have argued. A system should be designed to ensure that even children with parents who are not directly involved in their formal education (i.e. not involved in homework, not involved in school activities) are able to get a basic formal education. That does not in any way, shape or form suggest or imply that a system should be designed with the expectation that no parents will be involved.

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