What would YOU have to do to SAH?

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What would YOU have to do to SAH?
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Fri, 02-13-2009 - 5:09pm

If you're a WOH/WAH mom, what sort of "downsizing" would you need to do in order to afford to be a SAHM? (SAHM defined here as not earning any money)

For me, I would have to put all our non-essential possessions in storage and move in with my parents.

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Mon, 03-02-2009 - 5:11pm
First of all I am a nice middle class person, which is why it would occur to me to try to make my kid do her home work. However, I usually had no idea what that homework was. Again, this discussion sprang from descriptions of parents teaching basics, checking home work etc.
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Mon, 03-02-2009 - 5:13pm
Well no, it doesn't really matter in elementary school, which it is why that is a good time to learn these things. I always told dd that she would have to start worrying about grades by middle school and really kick into gear by HS.
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Mon, 03-02-2009 - 5:14pm
Yes, exactly. Also, the kids who have never had a chance to learn are the ones who often flake out when the parental control falls away.
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Mon, 03-02-2009 - 5:22pm

The lesson I hope I'm teaching my children about education is a love of learning; good grades are usually a byproduct of it. IMO, grades are not the be all and end all, the learning process is. My dd is a "think outside of the box" type and that's not always going to get her a good grade with a more traditional teacher. She did one quite clever project, perfectly within the original parameters of the assignment, IMO, but the teacher did not agree. She had fun doing the project and she learned a lot, but she got a C- and I was very proud of her efforts.

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Mon, 03-02-2009 - 5:39pm

What have you made your dd give up?


PumpkinAngel

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Mon, 03-02-2009 - 5:43pm

I was talking about the help in the context that 4thekids was referring, which involved the mom working one one with the child.


PumpkinAngel

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Mon, 03-02-2009 - 5:45pm

But that doesn't insure that a child will turn in homework, the unnatural consequence for their action. Why not just allow the natural consequence to occur?


PumpkinAngel

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Mon, 03-02-2009 - 5:49pm

The lesson I hope I'm teaching my children about education is a love of learning; good grades are usually a byproduct of it. IMO, grades are not the be all and end all, the learning process is. My dd is a "think outside of the box" type and that's not always going to get her a good grade with a more traditional teacher


i completely agree.


my dd's teachers and me were talking about this at last conference.

 

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Mon, 03-02-2009 - 5:53pm

I've become a more natural consequence type of parent over the years.


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PumpkinAngel

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Mon, 03-02-2009 - 5:55pm

Did you read 4thekids post about the mom who spends 3 hours working with her child on a daily basis?

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