What would YOU have to do to SAH?

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What would YOU have to do to SAH?
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Fri, 02-13-2009 - 5:09pm

If you're a WOH/WAH mom, what sort of "downsizing" would you need to do in order to afford to be a SAHM? (SAHM defined here as not earning any money)

For me, I would have to put all our non-essential possessions in storage and move in with my parents.

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Registered: 02-05-2009
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 12:15pm

you know what, believe it or not I don't -- I don't hang out at her rehearsals I don't get involved other than to run lines with her when she asks me to - and if she said to me tomorrow "ok that was fun but I'm done" I'd say "ok... no problem"

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Tue, 03-03-2009 - 12:21pm
I agree. It would be horrible for me and my child to have my ego tied up in her academic or other performance. When she does well I am terribly proud of her, of course, but that is not quite the same thing. Also, I would like to leave space for her to do better than me and her dad and to do differently.
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Registered: 02-06-2009
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 12:24pm

Right now she has lost her priveledge of using the home computer and her TV has been taken out of her room.

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Tue, 03-03-2009 - 12:25pm
YES! I can already see things in liza that she will do infinitely better and differently than I did and do -- and that pleases me tremendously.
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Tue, 03-03-2009 - 12:28pm
Sorry, but that is what I got from the posts saying that it is wrong to expect parents to look at homework or do anything involving the schools.
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Registered: 02-05-2009
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 12:30pm
OT but Liza keeps asking for a tv in her room but there's only 2 of us in the house and we have a tv in the living room, one in my room and one in the playroom -- I just can't see adding another one-- besides as I tell her -- then I'd have to give up cuddling with her on MY bed to watch tv!
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Tue, 03-03-2009 - 1:00pm

I think you are placing the word on the wrong noun and you shouldn't be calling anyone atypical or not normal. It is the LD or disease, or syndrome, or the child's *situation* or *solution* that may or not be normal/typical. DS's *LD* is not typical or normal (although 20% of people have it so it is not rare - his particular level of LD may be rare but the LD itself is not), but *he* - the person- is normal and typical in the vast majority of ways a 4th grader can be.

I bristle when anyone EVER calls a child not normal.

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 1:01pm

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sure you can.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 1:16pm

Change in what?

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 03-03-2009 - 1:20pm

I don't know what the alternative is, it's not a continuing problem, did you miss the post where I said he made the honor roll last semester?


Shrug, I don't expect my kids to be perfect.

PumpkinAngel

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