What would YOU have to do to SAH?

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What would YOU have to do to SAH?
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Fri, 02-13-2009 - 5:09pm

If you're a WOH/WAH mom, what sort of "downsizing" would you need to do in order to afford to be a SAHM? (SAHM defined here as not earning any money)

For me, I would have to put all our non-essential possessions in storage and move in with my parents.

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Registered: 02-05-2009
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 2:04pm

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It is my style. I much prefer to manage my life, my children's lives, and the workload of my staff/office through motivation rather than consequence.

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Registered: 08-31-2008
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 2:09pm
Really? As a manager, I always try to make assignments both interesting and a positive experience for the employee, our business, and the potential consumer. Employee performance and retention require it.
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Registered: 02-05-2009
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 2:18pm
I think I view it, when using the word normal or typical in this thread, that we're speaking of the child and situation in tandem.
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Registered: 02-05-2009
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 2:19pm
good post
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Registered: 08-31-2008
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 2:40pm

Maybe because I was a teacher in a past life and now manage professional employees, I think it is the boss's job to identify skills of their employees, give assignments based on their strengths, education and interests, and keep them motivated and positive about their contributions to the work we're doing. Sure, some of what we all have to do is tedious, and our incentive bonuses are being drastically cut, but most of the people I work with are pretty enthusiastic about what we do. Ones who aren't, don't last long in this work environment.

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 3:08pm
i was trying to avoid making the op the subject of the thread. i agree that workplaces should be positive places, and that bosses should do what they can to foster that, to attract and retain the best, and to get the best work out of the workers they attract. dh and i learned and use the same skills that we used to help our son learn to turn in his papers in
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Registered: 02-22-2007
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 3:12pm

>> Can I ask what the 2 B's were in? <<

I saw that sweetheart had answered, but how in the world does that make a bit of difference to the debate?


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Registered: 02-22-2007
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 3:15pm
I still think that's really inappropriate. If she wanted to know about the mom, she could have talked to some of the child's past teachers.


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Registered: 02-22-2007
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 3:20pm

>> I think you are mistaken to think that there is a huge dichotomy between "basic life skills" and formal education. <<

You're joking, right?

I know some people with a ton of formal education whose life skills are abysmal.

I know some people with very little formal education who have very good life skills.

Or do you think that things like grocery shopping, paying bills ontime, managing money, housekeeping, etc. should be taught in school?


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Registered: 02-22-2007
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 3:29pm

>> I don't see why parents should be completely relied on for the education of a child less than 5, but be expected to completely check out of the process after 5. <<

But again, not one person has suggested that this should be the case.


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