What would YOU have to do to SAH?

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What would YOU have to do to SAH?
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Fri, 02-13-2009 - 5:09pm

If you're a WOH/WAH mom, what sort of "downsizing" would you need to do in order to afford to be a SAHM? (SAHM defined here as not earning any money)

For me, I would have to put all our non-essential possessions in storage and move in with my parents.

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 8:38pm

when my kids asked to be quizzed I first tell them to go study for 15-20 min. When they come back, I ask them three questions. If they get 2 out of 3 wrong, I send them back to study more. It's happened on MANY an occasion, LOL!

eileen

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 8:49pm

some kids are, truly, natural spellers. Both my ds and dd are like that. They never had any issues with spelling tests, new words, etc.

My sd on the other hand is a whole 'other ball of wax. She needs to be quizzed by us each and every day. Last year, she had to write out all of her spelling sentences. They needed to be checked for ALL spelling errors -- as well as grammar. It was not uncommon for her to get her spelling words right but mispell words from 1st or 2nd grade....She's just not a natural speller in any sense of the word.

eileen

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Registered: 08-03-2008
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 8:53pm

>>I think schools should be given the resources to teach the basics so that kids will get them regardless of whether parents are involved, but they should *also* expect parents to be involved. <<


Then why have you been disagreeing with me this entire time?

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Registered: 08-03-2008
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 8:54pm
For your children?
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Registered: 11-08-2006
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 8:58pm

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I AM a teacher and didn't need anyone to tell me that my sd needed flashcards to learn her math facts. It's been clear since 2nd grade that she could NOT retain her basic addition and subtraction facts. So, yes, we've used flashcards about 5 nights out of 7 and, finally, she's just about secure/accurate on her Addition and Subtraction. We've just started making and using flashcards with her multiplication facts and will include division facts as she gets farther down the road. there is NO other way for her to learn these by rote WITHOUT them. Unfortunately, too many parents DON'T do this -- which is how we end up with 6th graders who have NO grasp of their BASIC math facts. Do you realize how hard math is if you don't have these facts at your immediate recall?

eileen

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 9:02pm

there are those parents out there. Sd's mom kept her out of kindergarten for FORTY days that year (no, kindie is NOT mandatory) and on MANY of the days that she was there, she came and picked her up early....

nevermind the fact that it's clear that no one really TALKED to and with her as an infant/toddler/preschooler....

sadly, there ARE those parents out there. Dh and I have spent the last 3 years helping sd make up those deficits.

eileen

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 9:09pm

thank you teacher.


i was sort of stirring over what cmleisl replied back with earlier today too.

 

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 9:13pm

i've found a significant difference in quizzing my daughter by her writing down the words on paper for me than having her spell them back to me verbally.

 

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Registered: 02-05-2009
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 9:15pm

I think organization can be BOTH a learned behavior or an innate trait.

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Registered: 08-03-2008
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 9:16pm

>>Do you believe it's easier for every public elementary school in the US to be able to teach the basics, or to get more and more parents involved in their kids' education?<<


The former, most certainly.

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