What would YOU have to do to SAH?

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What would YOU have to do to SAH?
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Fri, 02-13-2009 - 5:09pm

If you're a WOH/WAH mom, what sort of "downsizing" would you need to do in order to afford to be a SAHM? (SAHM defined here as not earning any money)

For me, I would have to put all our non-essential possessions in storage and move in with my parents.

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Registered: 08-03-2008
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 9:20pm

>>Sorry, but that is what I got from the posts saying that it is wrong to expect parents to look at homework or do anything involving the schools.

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Tue, 03-03-2009 - 9:21pm
If you agree that parents should be expected to be involved, regardless of their socioeconomic level, why have you been disagreeing with me?
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Registered: 01-09-2009
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 9:32pm

do you have an opinion whether organization is a learned behavior or a trait a child is born with?

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Ducky

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Tue, 03-03-2009 - 9:35pm

right now my ds has a very part time job at Dunkin' Donuts. He makes $8.50 or so per hour. Even working FT, how is he to actually LIVE on that?

eileen

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Registered: 08-03-2008
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 9:36pm
But there are parents that exist that are impossible to involve.
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Registered: 08-03-2008
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 9:39pm
I love how you say "you people".
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Registered: 08-03-2008
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 9:42pm

All I've ever said is that the school shouldn't rely on parental involvement to teach the basics.

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Registered: 01-05-2000
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 9:50pm

What I want Dylan to experience in school is how to socialize with his peers, to follow directions and turn his work in on time and how to fail. Knowledge he will soak up on his own. If he graduates with all Cs I will be satisfied. I don't expect all As (unless he wants them like Joy did) or his name on the honor roll. What I want for Dylan is for him to feel comfortable with people his own age, not just people 20 years his senior or 7 years his junior. I want him to be comfortable being Dylan.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 01-05-2000
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 9:56pm

Dylan has asked for a TV in his room. Our response is he can have one when he can earn the money to pay for one. And pay for his portion of the cable bill. Same goes for a computer/laptop or playstation.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 08-31-2008
Tue, 03-03-2009 - 10:17pm

I'll cowboy up to "you people". If my children choose honorable working class professions, e.g. cosmetology, auto repair, plumber, carpenter, bartender, house painter...I still hope they would at least have a community college education, though I'd prefer they'd have a 4year degree, as well as any apprenticeships they need. If they did not try some college, I would be disappointed not because they chose a working class profession, but because I think that education can greatly benefit the things they need to know outside of their chosen profession, like how to market, budget, and run their job if they choose to be self-employed.

I'm pretty sure that I'm not expecting the unions in retail to provide a living wage anfd benefits for my children in the future. I'm hoping for universal healthcare to provide that safety net.

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