What would YOU have to do to SAH?

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What would YOU have to do to SAH?
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Fri, 02-13-2009 - 5:09pm

If you're a WOH/WAH mom, what sort of "downsizing" would you need to do in order to afford to be a SAHM? (SAHM defined here as not earning any money)

For me, I would have to put all our non-essential possessions in storage and move in with my parents.

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Wed, 03-04-2009 - 9:47am

I wasn't, does that mean my status stays the same as the one I was raised in?


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Wed, 03-04-2009 - 9:48am

You can get a good job with all Cs in high school -- you can even get into a college with all Cs--it just may not be the one YOU would pick

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Registered: 01-20-2009
Wed, 03-04-2009 - 9:51am
We used math flashcards with our 4th grader. For our first grader, they've updated the concept in a really neat way - "math triangles."
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Registered: 02-05-2009
Wed, 03-04-2009 - 9:54am
I haven't used them past 1st grade with liza -- I'm not sure how they drill their math facts but I know in 2nd grade they had minute math - as many problems as you could do in a minute ad she seems to bring home endless worksheets.
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Wed, 03-04-2009 - 9:55am
Training teachers and changing curriculum isn't going to solve the DC public schools' problems.
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Wed, 03-04-2009 - 9:58am

"The whole point of school, IMO, is that school provides the basic stuff in a reliable and orderly way, leaving me free to provide the extras, the fun stuff and the tangents."


How interesting. I feel exactly the opposite - I want school to do the extras, fun stuff and tangents so I don't have to have science experiments going and invite 10 kids over to have learning experiences that are best done in a group setting. The school is much better positioned to dream up those enrichment activities than I am.


Why would you want your kid to spend 6 or 7 hours a day, every day, just covering the basics? How boring for everyone.

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Wed, 03-04-2009 - 9:59am
But the problem in the "home" is not that the parents don't know about flashcards. The basic problem is that they are not middle class. Giving them flashcards won't make them middle class.
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Wed, 03-04-2009 - 10:03am
So how is he supposed to learn to turn in completed work if receiving an F for homework doesn't affect his final grade in the
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Wed, 03-04-2009 - 10:04am
of course the individual assignment Fs would affect the overall grade, how could they not?
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Wed, 03-04-2009 - 10:05am

I would preferably want the school to do more than just the basics (and every school so far has done so, to some extent), but I would at least want the basics. Also, as a matter of general policy (the main point here) I would want to make sure the basics are covered as the first step. If a school can do more, great, but don't ditch basics on the assumption that the parents will take care of that.

Basics like math drill tend to be boring, yet necessary. They also require sustained attention over time by the person doing the teaching. The regimented nature of school and the presence of a trained professional paid to do this seem to me to make school the ideal venue for this kind of teaching.

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