What would YOU have to do to SAH?

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What would YOU have to do to SAH?
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Fri, 02-13-2009 - 5:09pm

If you're a WOH/WAH mom, what sort of "downsizing" would you need to do in order to afford to be a SAHM? (SAHM defined here as not earning any money)

For me, I would have to put all our non-essential possessions in storage and move in with my parents.

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Wed, 03-04-2009 - 10:23am

and yes, with Cs you can still get into good community colleges all aroudn teh country>

With C's you can get into some decent universities too. I graduated with a 2.56 (C) average and got into 3 schools in VA. Though I did have a lot of activities to help me look more rounded.


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Wed, 03-04-2009 - 10:27am
yup....and at the end of the day unless you're hell bent on that oh so fabulicious name brand education -- a good university is a good university is a good university.
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Wed, 03-04-2009 - 10:39am

Or maybe I've seen a little more than you have. It's ludicrous to think that my district will ever have the resources to do what you suggest, if it's even possible.

And I don't think you're reading what I've said very carefully. I said that as a practical matter, I don't think it's any more likely that one will be achieved than the other. That means I don't think we'll ever have 100% either way. That doesn't mean we shouldn't try.

To me, you seem awfully eager to dismiss the idea of low-income parental involvement. I'm not--I've seen it be part of the solution in schools in my district.

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Wed, 03-04-2009 - 10:43am
With low-income kids? In my district, where there has been success, parents have been part of the process too, supporting the students and teachers in various ways. That gives me more hope than wishing for some lucky combination of teachers and students.
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Wed, 03-04-2009 - 11:11am

Lol. I'm in an urban public school system that is more than 70% low-income. I live across the street from a middle school that is rated "unsatisfactory." Even the elementary school my kids attend(ed) is 55% low-income, yet it is *not* low-performing. I know what's working in our school, and I can see what's working in other schools in our district. Teachers can't do it alone. *Maybe* they could if they had the resources, but they don't. Training teachers and changing the curriculum isn't going to do it.

You'd have to change parents "into a different person" to get them to care about their kids' education? I hope that's not what you mean, because I think that's downright offensive.

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Wed, 03-04-2009 - 11:20am
Sounds like ordinary homework to me--not a sign that the schools are in crisis.
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Wed, 03-04-2009 - 11:20am

2 years at a community college then transferring to a 4 year school is cheaper than doing the whole 4 years at the 4 year. And the diploma isn't any different. Joy's diploma says University of Phoenix even though she only did the last 2 years there. And did them all online. It doesn't say that either. Erica's high school diploma is from the same high school Joy graduated from even though she did the last year at home. If Dylan decides to go to a technical school instead of college, having Cs instead of As isn't going to matter all that much. Nor will they matter if he goes into an apprenticing program. Ivy league schools aren't the only way to go after high school.

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Registered: 01-20-2009
Wed, 03-04-2009 - 11:28am

I didn't go to an Ivy League school.


There's a huge quality difference between an exclusively online undergrad degree and a top ten state university, for instance. Forget Ivy League.

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Wed, 03-04-2009 - 11:30am
I think the curriculum should devote more time to memorization of math facts too. Our district uses everyday math, and as you were saying, memorization is not a focus. It requires supplementation. At our school, the kids use a computer program to practice math facts, but we still supplement at home.
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Wed, 03-04-2009 - 11:31am
..but it all depends what your goals are -- not everyone out there has biggest best brightest richest aspirations... I sure didn't.

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