What would YOU have to do to SAH?

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What would YOU have to do to SAH?
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Fri, 02-13-2009 - 5:09pm

If you're a WOH/WAH mom, what sort of "downsizing" would you need to do in order to afford to be a SAHM? (SAHM defined here as not earning any money)

For me, I would have to put all our non-essential possessions in storage and move in with my parents.

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Registered: 01-20-2009
Wed, 03-04-2009 - 12:39pm

The college or university has a well regarded program in the field of study the applicant is interested in.

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Registered: 01-20-2009
Wed, 03-04-2009 - 12:40pm
Of course. Don't all parents want to get their money's worth from their kids' college experience, if they're paying a part or all of the bill?
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Wed, 03-04-2009 - 12:45pm

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Wed, 03-04-2009 - 12:45pm

If the schools are already addressing the problem of EM not teaching math facts, why do they need to throw out the whole curriculum? Our teachers aren't unhappy with the math curriculum, and I haven't heard any big uproar among parents about it either. So I'd guess that they simply don't share your beliefs.

And frankly, I think getting a parent interested in helping her own child learn math facts is a whole lot easier than getting that parent interested and involved in storming the school district to get the curriculum changed.

What are you doing to change things in your school or school district?

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Wed, 03-04-2009 - 12:47pm
I've come to more or less this conclusion as well. And while I learned the "old math," I still remember studying flashcards at home as a child.
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Registered: 02-24-2009
Wed, 03-04-2009 - 12:50pm
IMO, it is hopelessly inadequate. However, if the parents teach math at home or send the kids to Kumon, it all works out in the end. For that reason, I really do not think it should be used in a school (not yours obviously) where 70% of the kids are low-income.
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Wed, 03-04-2009 - 12:50pm
We have those too. I'm always finding them in weird places!
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Wed, 03-04-2009 - 12:54pm

I don't see that at all. When I was a kid, my parents sent us off to school and let the teachers do their magic. They did not ask about the curriculum, they only appeared at school if we were in trouble, and rarely attended any school events except graduation. I don't think I ever saw a parent volunteer during class time.

Now, you can't swing a cat without hitting a parent in my kids school at any time of the day. There is a parent-teacher curriculum committee, there is a fulltime (unpaid) coordinator who organizes and schedules classroom volunteers to best utilize their skills and time. Heck, I'm a once a week volunteer myself and rarely miss any kind of classroom or sporting event. Are my kids better off than I was as a child? I'd like to think so, but I can't prove it though I did get a pretty good education. We'll see how my children turn out.

Wasn't boarding school once the top of the line educational experience?

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Wed, 03-04-2009 - 12:56pm
Could you please humor me, since as PKA, Lois, talbots lover, etc. all know, I'm not knowledgeable about curricula differences, and explain what's "hopelessly inadequate" about it?
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Wed, 03-04-2009 - 12:56pm
It honestly never occurred to me to think of it that way. There are schools/solutions I will not pay for simply because I find it silly. There are other things I may have to say no to simply because I cannot pay it, but the value is measured by dd, not me, and the cost is measured by me, not dd. So the only value to me is helping my dd.

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