What would YOU have to do to SAH?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-22-2005
What would YOU have to do to SAH?
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Fri, 02-13-2009 - 5:09pm

If you're a WOH/WAH mom, what sort of "downsizing" would you need to do in order to afford to be a SAHM? (SAHM defined here as not earning any money)

For me, I would have to put all our non-essential possessions in storage and move in with my parents.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-22-2005
Mon, 02-16-2009 - 3:53pm
As much as the idea of living with my parents curdles my blood, I must admit that we could make a KILLER dent in our debt if we did it for a year, and just about eliminate it if we did it for two years. It's not something that would make my top 10 list of preferred options, though.
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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-15-2006
Tue, 02-17-2009 - 9:13am
right..i just don't think you can line up a bunch of SAHMs with WOHMs and determine whose who by personality alone.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2009
Tue, 02-17-2009 - 9:22am
of course you can't, because people are complicated and complex and there's far far more to each one of us than whether we spend our days at a job or not... my job doesn't define me but my daughter doesn't define me either.
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Registered: 10-05-2007
Tue, 02-17-2009 - 5:50pm

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 02-18-2009 - 10:43am

Exactly, just as one can't line up a bunch of

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 12-12-2008
Wed, 02-18-2009 - 2:02pm

When I was pregnant with my 1st child almost 15 years ago, the plan was for me to go back to work.

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Registered: 02-06-2006
Wed, 02-18-2009 - 2:27pm

I think that's because a lot of the women on this board don't have the mindset that its desirable for children to have a father they barely see because he works 7 days a week.

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Wed, 02-18-2009 - 2:38pm
My baby needs BOTH his parents. He's a dad, not an ATM. An absent father is FAR more detrimental than the other options. I would much sooner use daycare than have my son never see his daddy.
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iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 02-18-2009 - 3:16pm

I think, at least for me that is, the presence of one parent does not make up for the absence of the other parent.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 02-05-2009
Wed, 02-18-2009 - 3:27pm
I work two jobs -- do I count?

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