What would YOU have to do to SAH?

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What would YOU have to do to SAH?
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Fri, 02-13-2009 - 5:09pm

If you're a WOH/WAH mom, what sort of "downsizing" would you need to do in order to afford to be a SAHM? (SAHM defined here as not earning any money)

For me, I would have to put all our non-essential possessions in storage and move in with my parents.

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Registered: 03-27-2000
Mon, 02-23-2009 - 4:47pm

I think it's part of my job as a parent to partner with her teacher to help my child understand certain concepts when it is clear she might need a little bit of extra help once in a while. If it's not something I'm capable of doing myself, then I might send a note to the teacher saying that I think dd might need a little bit of extra help on something.

I don't sit with my 4th grader and go over her HW every night. But if it's clear to me, either from a test with some wrong answers or because I happen to look at her HW one night and see mistakes, that she needs a bit of extra help, I'm going to give it to her. I don't see what the big deal is. The teacher has plenty of students to worry about in the class that if I can help my kid at home so that the teacher can spend extra time with other kids whose parents might not give a crap or have the time, then I'm going to. However, if there was an ongoing problem with her not understanding the work, then at that point, I'd be talking to the teacher to find out why or whether my dd needed extra help from another source, like a tutor.

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Registered: 02-05-2009
Mon, 02-23-2009 - 4:47pm

I wouldn't let my kid go without learning a subject, and nothing I've said has indicated I would.

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Mon, 02-23-2009 - 4:48pm

However it is QUITE possible for the parents who CAN participate in their children's education to do so. A teacher could probably handle a few kids in class that need a little extra guidance and explanation. But to expect the teacher to personally tutor each and every student individually is about as ridiculous as expecting NO parents to sit down with their own children.

Overall and in general (of course there will be exceptions), teachers and parents are both responsible for ensuring appropriate education for their children.

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Registered: 01-20-2009
Mon, 02-23-2009 - 4:49pm

My point was that it might be vital to you personally but it doesn't prepare her for college nor put bread on your table.

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Mon, 02-23-2009 - 4:50pm

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OMG, try saying that to my DH's face. LOL You've obviously never truly WORKED in theatre.

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Registered: 02-05-2009
Mon, 02-23-2009 - 4:51pm

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I disagree. My EC activities provided motivation, socialization, discipline and several other things that prepared me for college.

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Registered: 01-20-2009
Mon, 02-23-2009 - 4:52pm

Oh yes, my kids haven't been to any of the museums, wetlands, historic sites or even (gasp!) Ford's Theater because DC is such a cultural wasteland.


Of course we take the kids to have enjoyable learning experiences outside the classroom. Even chaperone many of them.

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Registered: 08-29-2002
Mon, 02-23-2009 - 4:53pm

"A teacher could probably handle a few kids in class that need a little extra guidance and explanation. But to expect the teacher to personally tutor each and every student individually is about as ridiculous as expecting NO parents to sit down with their own children."

If a teacher needs to tutor each and every student individually, that teacher has clearly failed to present the material properly. Imo, if the material has been taught effectively, few students should require additional help from either the teacher or the parents.

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Registered: 01-20-2009
Mon, 02-23-2009 - 4:53pm

We're talking about two different types of students.

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Registered: 08-29-2002
Mon, 02-23-2009 - 4:56pm

Ultimately, a child with parents who refuse to help is also at a disadvantage. Willingness or ability doesn't really make a lot of difference from the child's perspective; the child is still the one who pays the price.

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