What would YOU have to do to SAH?

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What would YOU have to do to SAH?
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Fri, 02-13-2009 - 5:09pm

If you're a WOH/WAH mom, what sort of "downsizing" would you need to do in order to afford to be a SAHM? (SAHM defined here as not earning any money)

For me, I would have to put all our non-essential possessions in storage and move in with my parents.

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Thu, 02-19-2009 - 9:32am
And look how the children of that generation turned out.
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Registered: 07-18-2007
Thu, 02-19-2009 - 9:50am

"It's interesting that so far on this board I have not seen anyone mention where they spouse would be willing to work a second job to help cover expenses."


Look at your own post #56 for the answer:


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Yeah well, that's just, ya know, like, your opinion, man-The Big Lebowski 

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Thu, 02-19-2009 - 9:51am

Sorry, but your statement is false. Perhaps I can change if for you: Two generations ago white college educated upper middle class women married to white college educated upper middle class professional men, generally stayed at home to care for their children because they were forced to quit their jobs when they married or when they became pregnant.

Two generations ago, my grandmother was born without the right to vote.

Two generations ago my grandmother grew a garden to to provide all the vegetables and some of the fruit her family ate. She also has some chickens and eggs.

Two generations ago, my good friend and I would not be allowed to sit together on a bus, sit together in a restaurant or sip from the same water fountain - our children would have been sent to different and unequal public schools across the street from each other.

Two generations ago my grandfather could not sleep at night for fear that someone would find out his father ran as a socialist for water commissioner of Topeka Kansas 30 years before.

Two generations ago our country sequestered citizens just because of their ethnic heritage.

Two generations our country became the first (and still only) to use an atom bomb against another country.

Two generations ago my other grandmother worked *side-by-side*_ in the family store in a small town in the midwest.

One generation ago my mother was forced to quit her job when she became pregnant with me. Her friend was forced to quit when she married.

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Thu, 02-19-2009 - 10:28am
Slacks?!?! This world is going to hell in a handbasket! Man Alive, what will they come up with next?
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 02-19-2009 - 11:55am

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So then why would you think that daycare would affect an infant?


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PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 02-19-2009 - 12:01pm

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Two generations ago, so what time frame are you claiming this occured?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 02-19-2009 - 12:02pm

....and education.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 02-19-2009 - 12:05pm

Well said.


PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 02-19-2009 - 12:13pm

Two generations ago, we were an agrarian society and everyone worked on the farm--dad, mom, and kids. Or women worked in their tenement apts as sweat shop workers and their small children worked along side of them while their husbands were out of work. Two generations ago, children were working in factories and mines.

OH, you mean the 50s, where little white pills and wine glasses were part of every mother's day (ok so some exaggeration there). When female teachers were fired when they got pregnant. When children were crippled (or died) from polio and whopping cough. When infants rode in the car in their parents' arms and were put to sleep on their stomachs. the 50's that generated the civil rights and women's movement in the 60's. Not to mention the hippies, flower children, "turn on, tune in, and drop out".

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 01-05-2000
Thu, 02-19-2009 - 12:29pm

Two generations ago, voters were wondering if the Pope was going to be running the presidentcy. Now we have a black president.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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