What would YOU have to do to SAH?

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What would YOU have to do to SAH?
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Fri, 02-13-2009 - 5:09pm

If you're a WOH/WAH mom, what sort of "downsizing" would you need to do in order to afford to be a SAHM? (SAHM defined here as not earning any money)

For me, I would have to put all our non-essential possessions in storage and move in with my parents.

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Registered: 05-09-2006
Tue, 02-24-2009 - 10:09am
Depends. Have you started breeding the sharks for the moat? ;)
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Tue, 02-24-2009 - 10:13am

LOL, I told him to ask his dad about the moat and he didn't this weekend when dad was home so he's out of luck.


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Tue, 02-24-2009 - 10:19am

Perhaps your child was such an excellent student that you didn't need to know how she was doing in b/w report cards? Did you not have any feedback other than to assume your child was doing well unless you heard from the teacher? I'm not trying to assume here but I'm just wondering how it is possible not to know that your child was having tests once a week. Even if she didn't need any help, it just seems odd to me that this either was never communicated to the parents or that you were uninterested to such an extent that you just didn't know. I'm not accusing you of that - just trying to get an idea why you wouldn't have known. In our school, a test folder is sent home once a week w/all graded work. We have to sign it and send it back.

My second grader has spelling tests every Friday. He rarely gets a word wrong and I almost never help him with his spelling unless he asks, but I still know that he has a spelling test every Friday. I also know that he has a spelling pre-test on Mondays. He actually brings his book home over the weekend and looks at the words on Sunday night b/c if he gets all the words correct on the pre-test, he doesn't have to take the Friday test. I found this out b/c 1) I saw him studying on Sundays and 2) the teacher told us at Parents Night the first month of school and 3) by reading it in the weekly newsletter. I'd have to be completely uninterested in my child's education to not know these type of things.

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Tue, 02-24-2009 - 10:24am
At my kids' elementary school, the teachers ask the parents to check homework every night. The teachers don't seem to have any problem knowing what the kids don't know.
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Tue, 02-24-2009 - 10:32am

Same thing in my dd's school. Parents are asked to check over homework. The teachers don't grade it, so it doesn't alert them to what the child doesn't know. They find that out through quizzes, classwork, and tests.

I've always checked my kids' homework in elementary school. I don't fix it for them; I just send them back to look at it again. I help only if I'm asked. I see one of the primary purposes of homework (in elementary school, anyway) as an opportunity for me to see what they're working on in school.

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Tue, 02-24-2009 - 10:35am

Good question.

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Tue, 02-24-2009 - 10:38am

Parents were not informed, nor did we have any folders or things to sign. It never occurred to me to interrogate the child about any tests. When she felt the need, she told me. In this case, she did not tell me.

I did not usually feel any need for updates or even report cards. The teachers rarely had anything useful to tell me. I have always talked to the kid, including about what she was doing at school. From that it was usually pretty easy to establish how she was doing.

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Registered: 02-05-2009
Tue, 02-24-2009 - 10:39am

The teachers don't grade the homework? Meaning it doesn't get a grade or meaning the students switch papers to grade?

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Registered: 01-09-2009
Tue, 02-24-2009 - 10:48am

I know that my 1st grader has weekly spelling tests, but other than that, I don't really have a clue.

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Tue, 02-24-2009 - 10:51am

Teachers don't grade homework?

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