What would YOU have to do to SAH?

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What would YOU have to do to SAH?
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Fri, 02-13-2009 - 5:09pm

If you're a WOH/WAH mom, what sort of "downsizing" would you need to do in order to afford to be a SAHM? (SAHM defined here as not earning any money)

For me, I would have to put all our non-essential possessions in storage and move in with my parents.

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Wed, 02-25-2009 - 8:21pm
My kid gets marked down on his reading grade if I forget to fill out and sign his reading log.
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Wed, 02-25-2009 - 8:23pm

Yes, that would be the 1% of the post, the rest was all about my elementary school child who is in 5th grade.

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Wed, 02-25-2009 - 8:45pm
Where on earth did I say it was a big deal? You're the one who's acting like checking your child's homework is some major thing. I check my dd's homework every night. Most of the time, it's fine. When it's not, I send her back to look at it again. No big deal.
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Wed, 02-25-2009 - 8:52pm

PKA seems to want to guide the debate.

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Wed, 02-25-2009 - 8:52pm
I don't think that help has to be from other resources. If there's a problem with homework, I would expect to help my child with the homework *in addition* to talking to the teacher about help at school for whatever the problem is.
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Wed, 02-25-2009 - 9:02pm

"Well that wasn't exactly what I was referring to when I mentioned a disadvantage....I think the addition of family projects when it's known that that is a difficult area, is a disadvantage."

No idea what you mean here. What do you mean by "difficult area"? How is it a disadvantage then?

"No, that is not what I have said, in fact I have stated that I have helped my children with their homework after third grade, so obviously I don't disapprove, let alone think it's a negative. What I have said, is that a typical child should not need daily help to work through their homework with their parents at around the 3rd grade, if they need daily help to work through their homework, then there is a larger issue, which could mean a variety of things. I have never, ever said I disapprove of parents helping kids with homework. I don't have negative feelings about parents helping kids with homework, none at all and if you reread the posts, it will clearly say that I have helped my kids, one of them has a tutor and so forth."

Shrug. It pretty clear to me that you disapprove of parents helping their kids with homework on a regular basis after 3d grade.

"But of course those are not the only two options available; "family" homework or not doing the project. My kids have done science projects and homework for years without making it a family project, I can't believe my children's school is the only school that wants the children to do their own homework and their own science projects....and based on the city wide science fair, which is pretty strict about not allowing parental help...I don't think we are alone."

I'm sure you're not alone. However, that doesn't mean that expecting kids to learn now to do big projects on their own or to complete homework on their own is necessarily the only or right way to go about it, especially in a school that is not like yours. As I've said numerous times, it's just a different philosophy. As for the city-wide science fair, it doesn't start until middle school here. So we don't have those issues at our school science fair.

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Wed, 02-25-2009 - 10:14pm
No. The district science fair starts in the 6th grade, which is middle school here.
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Wed, 02-25-2009 - 10:21pm
Lol, I guess so. I said I *didn't* think it was a big deal, and she responded by asking me why I think it's a big deal. Clearly I'm missing something. ;)
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Wed, 02-25-2009 - 10:45pm

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I can see why! :-)

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Wed, 02-25-2009 - 10:50pm

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I think that is totally reasonable. As long as the parent is involved enough to know firsthand that their child is learning and doing well and understanding, then they can back off and let the child keep up the good work.

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