What would YOU have to do to SAH?

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What would YOU have to do to SAH?
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Fri, 02-13-2009 - 5:09pm

If you're a WOH/WAH mom, what sort of "downsizing" would you need to do in order to afford to be a SAHM? (SAHM defined here as not earning any money)

For me, I would have to put all our non-essential possessions in storage and move in with my parents.

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Registered: 02-06-2009
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 10:52am
Oh, ok. I think I would rather have a teacher's assistant who has the education than just a parent volunteering. JMHO.
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Thu, 02-26-2009 - 10:56am

I agree with that. If I had to teach the basics, I might as well as home school instead of sending Dylan to school.

"It should be absolutely possible for a child to leave school with a reasonably decent grasp of the basics regardless of parental participation. If schools demand parental participation to even teach the basics, many children will simply fail to learn even the basics...which is, of course, exactly what is happening right now. "

Chris

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Registered: 01-20-2009
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 10:56am
I couldn't agree more.
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Thu, 02-26-2009 - 10:59am

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Of course not, never suggested anywhere in any of my comments that parents shouldn't be allowed to help, anywhere, let alone suggest that, anywhere.

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Thu, 02-26-2009 - 11:01am

I was talking about the parents in *my* school, which is what I was asked about. At my school, this is the expectation, so yes, parents who send their kids their should follow the expectations if they can.

I don't care what other parents in other schools do. I assume those other schools have different philosophies.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 11:02am

I think she means help in a more general way, but I could be wrong.

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 02-26-2009 - 11:03am
Yes, I understand that view. just feel differently. My older dd is in middle school now, where parents are not allowed to help with projects, and I feel the help I gave her when she was younger has really paid off. YMMV.
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Thu, 02-26-2009 - 11:03am
True, but that's an unrealistically high expectation to put on the teacher and the school.
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Thu, 02-26-2009 - 11:06am

"That does mean that my kids get more out of the science fair than the disadvantaged child whose parent can't or won't help. I can live with that."


Exactly.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 11:07am

I agree and as talbotslover says it becomes a slippery slope. If the school starts using parent volunteers instead of paid, trained and educated employees, then what's next?


I think parent volunteers are great for a school and I volunteer on a weekly basis at the school, I do work for a group of teachers that is their "busy" work, allowing them to free up their planning and teaching time for the students.


PumpkinAngel

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