What would YOU have to do to SAH?

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What would YOU have to do to SAH?
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Fri, 02-13-2009 - 5:09pm

If you're a WOH/WAH mom, what sort of "downsizing" would you need to do in order to afford to be a SAHM? (SAHM defined here as not earning any money)

For me, I would have to put all our non-essential possessions in storage and move in with my parents.

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Avatar for 4thekids2001
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 11:31am

Can we be clear what we are talking about. Do you think every parent(or 1 in each family)

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 11:35am

Easy...the middle ground, the children do it with some help from the teacher or the parents, it doesn't have to be a "family project".

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Thu, 02-26-2009 - 11:37am

You do realize that you are constantly lumping together ESL, low-income and disadvantaged, right? I do understand that it probably reflects the reality where you live, and that is fair enough. It is, however, a little funny to me, since I still do not speak the local lingo very well of where I have lived for ten years by now. I have never been able to help dd with most of her home work, even if I had wanted to. At the same time, we are neither low-income nor disadvantaged in any way.

Also, you keep insisting that the drive to involve parents in school work will somehow help the aforementioned disadvantaged/ESL/low-income kids, yet in other posts you seem quite content with the tremendous leg up your kid will have over these kids as the result of your help. Again, there is nothing wrong with that, but it can be a little hard to decide exactly what your argument for the home work help is.

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Registered: 02-24-2009
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 11:40am
That is a possibility. However, mom34101 seemed to argue that it was important to get the parents of the disadvantaged kids to help their kids with school work, yet kept explaining that those parents can't, in fact, do so.
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Registered: 02-05-2009
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 11:41am
slightly OT but when Liza was in kindergarten they did this big quilt project (ugh)and I remember the instructions comeing home from her teacher -- I was reading them to Liza and at one point it said "with fabric paint and a hot glue gun..."
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Thu, 02-26-2009 - 11:43am

I guess I don't, because I don't really see how a parent views

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 11:44am

My kids get dropped off at my mom's for this type of stuff!


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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 02-26-2009 - 11:46am

For me it's not always even possible, often times my son may finish his homework during class time

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 02-26-2009 - 11:50am

That's how I read it as well and it would seem to me that those children would be at a disadvantage as the school philosophy is to have parental help in regards to homework and assigning family projects.

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 02-26-2009 - 11:51am
I wish I could stay at home but my husband and I both need to work to provide for our child.

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