what's your sore spot?

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what's your sore spot?
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Sun, 04-06-2008 - 12:09am

So what's your sore spot?

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Mon, 04-07-2008 - 12:21pm

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Registered: 10-24-2007
Mon, 04-07-2008 - 12:24pm

It's nothing compared to your loss, but when people ask me when we're going to *give* Alexandra a brother or sister, or however they phrase it, I still haven't found a short and snappy way of explaining "we tried to for years, it didn't happen, I was devastated for awhile but now I'm over it, and by the way she's just fine thanks" without divulging far more information than they deserve(/are interested in), while at the same time letting them know that it was a pretty dumb and insensitive question to ask, and that not everyone gets to choose the exact number of children that they want.


On the flip side though I'm sure that through the years I've asked equally dumb and insensitive question unthinkingly without any insight into what might have brought the person to whatever situation I'm asking about, and then felt like a jerk when they give the answer I never expected to hear.


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Registered: 10-24-2007
Mon, 04-07-2008 - 12:25pm

but those are all totally valid questions!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 04-07-2008 - 1:49pm
Is this make up & no undies for weekly dance class? Or just for recitals? My kids have been in dance for years with different instructors (although the same dance studio) and they've never been instructed to not wear underwear with their costume. They do wear makeup for recital . . . but not weekly dance class. Just curious--Tina and Hehmommy didn't really specify. But I don't see why it would be a big deal for once a year thing. But if it was more often (weekly) that would annoy me.

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Mon, 04-07-2008 - 1:53pm

Liza hasn't worn underwear under her tights for four years -- she never wears underwear to class.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Mon, 04-07-2008 - 1:57pm
In the studio I am in there is no rules for classes except for the rule that no street shoes are aloud in the actual class room.

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Mon, 04-07-2008 - 2:01pm
Ok just weird. My oldest has had recitals once a year since she was 4 and they never mentioned to leave out the underwear. Even weirder, I've never noticed any panty lines or underwear showing through the costumes at a recital, with all the lights, etc. I'd say this is our 7th year of it too. I've noticed it at ballet class when the girls are wearing tights & light colored leotards . . . their underwear shows through. But now my girls are not into ballet they have been doing more of a modern kind of dance and they just wear sweats & tshirts to class. Anyway, no vpl has ever marred my recital enjoyment! We're probably jsut weird.

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Mon, 04-07-2008 - 2:04pm
Ok just curious. I know our dance studio is different . . . they even let us parents sit and watch the dance class as the floor plan is very open. The ballet instructor is very good and there's never been a problem with the girls being distracted. Anyway, thanks I wasn't sure if the make up & underwear rule was for every week or rectial.

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Mon, 04-07-2008 - 2:07pm
see to me it's just normal. I've danced my whole life, been in theater my whole life -- I never wear underwear even at the gym b/c I'm so used to havign nothing on under workout clothes or tights ...I don't wear it when I cycle either b/c it's much more comfortable under my bike shorts -- so to me not wearing underwear under tights and a leotard makes 100% sense b/c it's just plain more comfortable, nothing rides up, nothing bunches, it's just a cleaner line and a comfier feel.

 

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Mon, 04-07-2008 - 2:23pm
I did ballet from 4 to about 12 and that is all we did.

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