When did structure become a bad thing?
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| Fri, 07-30-2004 - 8:19am |
We used to live next door to a "no structure" family. The kids ran wild in the neighborhood, the mom never planned dinner so lord only knows if and when the kids ate. Sorry, I don't think that's a good way to live. My kids know we eat dinner at 6:30, so they have to be home.
I can see taht you wouldn't demand that an infant go to bed and wake up at precisely the same time, but is there ever a time to impose structure on a child? So lets say you are the freewheeling type and have always doen things whenever. What happens when you send your child to school where the bell rings at the same time every day?
As far as activities, I realize all kids are different, but when my kids were little, if we just did whatever, whenever, my kids woudl end up grumpy and overtired. My experience is that if say, we were at the beach and I say, oh heck, let's just stay later, the kids woudl be happy at first, but by the days end I would end up with whiny, overtired kids.
Maybe I'm just misinterpreting what I am reading, but I personally think structure is a good thing. When children are small, the structure includes naptimes, mealtimes, etc. As they get older it evolves into boundaries like "be home at 6 for dinner" or "you can't go into soemones house without telling me first". I couldn't imagine living without structure or boundaries for my kids.
Susan

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i do however, still get to see him(tomorrow as a matter of fact) as my youngest has to have his physical to swim.
i dont know if i did the right things with my children, but they seemed to be ok. whenever they saw the ped or anytime for that matter, i encouraged my kids to talk to he or another medical person, counselor if they had questions they were afraid to ask me. im not sure they were ever afraid to ask anything, as i have been asked by my children what a bj is, and how do you do 69 standing up.....(blush!) I think also, if we let our children know we are knowledgable about even the taboo things(whenever they come up), and dont react with shock or surprise, they are more apt to come to us. jmho
Sahms and wohms both change innumberable diapers. That's not the issue. The issue is if I need a Pap smear, I go to the dr. who does countless ones. Perhaps people here are intimidated by drs. or afraid of offending a pediatrician or something.
I really don't understand how anyone could disagree with the way I go about choosing drs, so I'm having a hard time with absolutely everyone here disagreeing with me!
Edited 8/19/2004 9:45 pm ET ET by luvthebabes
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