When did structure become a bad thing?
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| Fri, 07-30-2004 - 8:19am |
We used to live next door to a "no structure" family. The kids ran wild in the neighborhood, the mom never planned dinner so lord only knows if and when the kids ate. Sorry, I don't think that's a good way to live. My kids know we eat dinner at 6:30, so they have to be home.
I can see taht you wouldn't demand that an infant go to bed and wake up at precisely the same time, but is there ever a time to impose structure on a child? So lets say you are the freewheeling type and have always doen things whenever. What happens when you send your child to school where the bell rings at the same time every day?
As far as activities, I realize all kids are different, but when my kids were little, if we just did whatever, whenever, my kids woudl end up grumpy and overtired. My experience is that if say, we were at the beach and I say, oh heck, let's just stay later, the kids woudl be happy at first, but by the days end I would end up with whiny, overtired kids.
Maybe I'm just misinterpreting what I am reading, but I personally think structure is a good thing. When children are small, the structure includes naptimes, mealtimes, etc. As they get older it evolves into boundaries like "be home at 6 for dinner" or "you can't go into soemones house without telling me first". I couldn't imagine living without structure or boundaries for my kids.
Susan

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Edited 8/20/2004 8:59 pm ET ET by laurenmom2boys
i think our kids think we always have a hidden agenda therefore shut us off. if you insist she listen to what you have to say, she might realize you have her in your best interest, and are not "fishing for information". It will also make her realize you are human too and not just "a prying mom".
hope i didnt offend, and not saying my way is the way, just that this worked when i went through it. hope it helps you.
I said it would be funny to throw the scale out the second story window, and i do think it would be, but i would probably laugh if it hit a fat person too, as just the thought is humerous in itself, so dont flatter yourself by making it more than it is.
one of the big problems of a debate board, is everything is up for debate, therefore, if i say im fat, ate pizza for dinner and watched the olymics all night, the visions people get are probably blown way out of proportion in their minds and come back with horrendous a$$umptions. ie: why dont you get up off your butt and do something about it? i workout six days a week......and the saga goes on. so tell me, why shouldnt thin women in good shape (BY THE GRACE OF GOD, AND NOTHING MORE)be fair game. fat people have been FOREVER!
I deleted my post because she's absolutely right. There are real people on the other side of the debate. Their feelings are as valid as mine. In light of that, I'm stepping back from this thread and the others that got heated.
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This post, if you are indeed serious, is why I have a hard time you passed the logic test in law school.
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