When did structure become a bad thing?
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| Fri, 07-30-2004 - 8:19am |
We used to live next door to a "no structure" family. The kids ran wild in the neighborhood, the mom never planned dinner so lord only knows if and when the kids ate. Sorry, I don't think that's a good way to live. My kids know we eat dinner at 6:30, so they have to be home.
I can see taht you wouldn't demand that an infant go to bed and wake up at precisely the same time, but is there ever a time to impose structure on a child? So lets say you are the freewheeling type and have always doen things whenever. What happens when you send your child to school where the bell rings at the same time every day?
As far as activities, I realize all kids are different, but when my kids were little, if we just did whatever, whenever, my kids woudl end up grumpy and overtired. My experience is that if say, we were at the beach and I say, oh heck, let's just stay later, the kids woudl be happy at first, but by the days end I would end up with whiny, overtired kids.
Maybe I'm just misinterpreting what I am reading, but I personally think structure is a good thing. When children are small, the structure includes naptimes, mealtimes, etc. As they get older it evolves into boundaries like "be home at 6 for dinner" or "you can't go into soemones house without telling me first". I couldn't imagine living without structure or boundaries for my kids.
Susan

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PumpkinAngel
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Susan
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Dj
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None of us care for these types of foods.
We pretty much stick to the common fare of chicken, turkey, beef, pork. Grilled, baked, or fried in our house. Nothing chinese, mexican, japansese, thai, indian, or anything else like that. Nothing at all.
We eat rice, but can't say any of the 3 of us really like it. We wouldn't just fix rice as a side item. I usually cook it to put the boiled or grilled chicken on. More of a presentation thing that we end up eating a little bit of. Never cleaning our plates though. I have a chicken & rice dish that I bake.
We don't do dips for our chips or vegetables. Picky about salad dressings around here.
In our family, we don't only like things cooked in grease. But they are definately a true favorite above everything else on the menu.
Tonight I'm throwing butterfly chops on the grill. I'll make a salad & new potatoes as the side. I did make an oreo dessert for us.
Paige
If I'm making a big dinner, I'll make the gravy and mashed potatoes as sides usually with corn on the cob with butter goes well with that. Throw in some biscuits (canned or out of one of those frozen bags, I rarely make my own).
For quick meals we like to put them on the big sesame seed golden buns. Plain!
Paige
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"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
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