When did structure become a bad thing?
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| Fri, 07-30-2004 - 8:19am |
We used to live next door to a "no structure" family. The kids ran wild in the neighborhood, the mom never planned dinner so lord only knows if and when the kids ate. Sorry, I don't think that's a good way to live. My kids know we eat dinner at 6:30, so they have to be home.
I can see taht you wouldn't demand that an infant go to bed and wake up at precisely the same time, but is there ever a time to impose structure on a child? So lets say you are the freewheeling type and have always doen things whenever. What happens when you send your child to school where the bell rings at the same time every day?
As far as activities, I realize all kids are different, but when my kids were little, if we just did whatever, whenever, my kids woudl end up grumpy and overtired. My experience is that if say, we were at the beach and I say, oh heck, let's just stay later, the kids woudl be happy at first, but by the days end I would end up with whiny, overtired kids.
Maybe I'm just misinterpreting what I am reading, but I personally think structure is a good thing. When children are small, the structure includes naptimes, mealtimes, etc. As they get older it evolves into boundaries like "be home at 6 for dinner" or "you can't go into soemones house without telling me first". I couldn't imagine living without structure or boundaries for my kids.
Susan

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eileen
<<>> Wow, i consider/ed myself pretty on top of things as well, but because things are changing all the time and the drs attend seminars for updates constantly, I think you would be very surprised at how much you *dont* know. This is not to say you are uninformed or naive, simply not up on the latest info privvy to the med field.
I do disagree with the time frame of treating eating disorders, as i think obese people are left out there to flounder *until* it becomes a health issue which usually takes years beyond starving oneself, however, the road to the physical downfall of obesity is ever so obvious, and i think its a shame when all the med tests come back normal, drs just say, eat less and exercise more, or you're going to have problems in the coming years. HELLLLLOOOOOOOO, im no doctor, and obesity is a blatant symptom of problems now, however not physical.
as far as me making comments, i didnt read every single post in the thread, but i read enough to know obviously something was said to hit a nerve in my sister who is usually resiliant to such obnoxiousness, therefore, i commented. i will never ever say anything to anyone about their weight, or their looks for that matter, as that is below me.
As far as your son having applesauce for dinner, who cares, i always looked at the whole day, or week for that matter, as if they are getting all the vitamins and minerals they need over time, we are doing well. I promise, every year the night before halloween, we would sit down to dinner, and i would announce, "kids, tomorrow night we will have CANDY for dinner!", LOL. and they did. a battle i didnt choose to fight, thats all.
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