When did structure become a bad thing?
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| Fri, 07-30-2004 - 8:19am |
We used to live next door to a "no structure" family. The kids ran wild in the neighborhood, the mom never planned dinner so lord only knows if and when the kids ate. Sorry, I don't think that's a good way to live. My kids know we eat dinner at 6:30, so they have to be home.
I can see taht you wouldn't demand that an infant go to bed and wake up at precisely the same time, but is there ever a time to impose structure on a child? So lets say you are the freewheeling type and have always doen things whenever. What happens when you send your child to school where the bell rings at the same time every day?
As far as activities, I realize all kids are different, but when my kids were little, if we just did whatever, whenever, my kids woudl end up grumpy and overtired. My experience is that if say, we were at the beach and I say, oh heck, let's just stay later, the kids woudl be happy at first, but by the days end I would end up with whiny, overtired kids.
Maybe I'm just misinterpreting what I am reading, but I personally think structure is a good thing. When children are small, the structure includes naptimes, mealtimes, etc. As they get older it evolves into boundaries like "be home at 6 for dinner" or "you can't go into soemones house without telling me first". I couldn't imagine living without structure or boundaries for my kids.
Susan

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outside_the_box_mom
I also disagree with you on the percentage of people who have a grasp on their *lifelong* stuggles with weight is that large. the people who are in the majority of the group who have a grasp on it, *for the most part* have *not* had life long issues. my sister and I are a perfect example. i was always the "solid" one, and lauren was the skinny, mini while growing up. she has only been struggling with it for 15 years, a third of the time i have, which is quite typical of adults.
and you've taken that lesson and applied it here by not being rude and condescending. I, and others, appreciate that.
And that's all I ask for from others. I understand the lesson behind what the posters were saying. I understand the logic. What I don't understand, or like, was their attitude and tone that went with it.
You catch a lot more flies with honey than vinegar. If someone truly wants to educate and inform, and keep others from misleading the uninformed, making rude, uncaring comments is most definitely NOT the way to go about it.
Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color. Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.
I grew up in TX too. My father was poor country, my mom was a city girl, with a lot more education.
Mondo
To tell you the truth, it got even scarier!! i told her straight forward what 69 was, and no ladies, i didnt tell her it was just a number, as i didnt want her going back to school getting the crude, ugly version. then she asked how its done standing up. i said, "i dont know". with that she asked if dh and i ever did it. all i can say to that is BLUSH!!! i went on to tell her, i dont mind telling her about sex, and the facts, but i wont discuss what her daddy and i do in privacy and when she is old enough to experience these things, she will probably want to keep them private as well, as there are very personal feelings involved.
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