When did structure become a bad thing?
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| Fri, 07-30-2004 - 8:19am |
We used to live next door to a "no structure" family. The kids ran wild in the neighborhood, the mom never planned dinner so lord only knows if and when the kids ate. Sorry, I don't think that's a good way to live. My kids know we eat dinner at 6:30, so they have to be home.
I can see taht you wouldn't demand that an infant go to bed and wake up at precisely the same time, but is there ever a time to impose structure on a child? So lets say you are the freewheeling type and have always doen things whenever. What happens when you send your child to school where the bell rings at the same time every day?
As far as activities, I realize all kids are different, but when my kids were little, if we just did whatever, whenever, my kids woudl end up grumpy and overtired. My experience is that if say, we were at the beach and I say, oh heck, let's just stay later, the kids woudl be happy at first, but by the days end I would end up with whiny, overtired kids.
Maybe I'm just misinterpreting what I am reading, but I personally think structure is a good thing. When children are small, the structure includes naptimes, mealtimes, etc. As they get older it evolves into boundaries like "be home at 6 for dinner" or "you can't go into soemones house without telling me first". I couldn't imagine living without structure or boundaries for my kids.
Susan

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Think I know what I'm missing. Quite frankly, I'm so glad!
I like fish & shrimp, grilled or deep fried. I like scallops cooked in a butter sauce & calamari & clam strips deep fried. Lobster & Crab legs.
I can't stand anything cold. I don't even eat cold cuts.
Paige
Sleeping with it on is habit.
Tv is great mental stimulation here.
Paige
up until hs graduation, i watched everything that went into my mouth from a *very* early age and was very physically active. never ate sweets, soda, chocolate or fast food. honest!! never! and i was still fighting it. I dont envy anyone with a weight problem but when one starts the day their face hits the air, and hear ugly comments all ones life, (and i kept my weight down, and still endured comments), its kind of hard to feel badly for people who are thin by the grace of God when they take an occasional slam, but i wont be the one slamming them, as i have been accused.
Thanks for sharing insight from a different pov.
If you don't eat grits & gravy you are looked upon as plain old weird.
Paige
They were serving up Japanese on a cruise one time we were on. We said no, thanks.
I'd take a frozen pizza anyday over it.
Paige
Deal with it.
Karen
"A pocketknife is like a melody;sharp in some places,
So just because you have been insulted in your life because of your weight , someone who has done absolutly nothing to you is fair game just because of their weight. I am not seeing the logic there. I don't consider by 21 year old DD to be anyones fair game just because she happens to weight 94 pounds.
Beth Ann, How tall are you?
I like the taste of the outcome or chicken fried steak just as I look the outcome of a filet grilled medium rare with a little Bernaise sauce and some grilled mushrooms....however they are not interchangeable cuts of meat in our household nor will they ever be.
PumpkinAngel
Amen!
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