When did structure become a bad thing?
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| Fri, 07-30-2004 - 8:19am |
We used to live next door to a "no structure" family. The kids ran wild in the neighborhood, the mom never planned dinner so lord only knows if and when the kids ate. Sorry, I don't think that's a good way to live. My kids know we eat dinner at 6:30, so they have to be home.
I can see taht you wouldn't demand that an infant go to bed and wake up at precisely the same time, but is there ever a time to impose structure on a child? So lets say you are the freewheeling type and have always doen things whenever. What happens when you send your child to school where the bell rings at the same time every day?
As far as activities, I realize all kids are different, but when my kids were little, if we just did whatever, whenever, my kids woudl end up grumpy and overtired. My experience is that if say, we were at the beach and I say, oh heck, let's just stay later, the kids woudl be happy at first, but by the days end I would end up with whiny, overtired kids.
Maybe I'm just misinterpreting what I am reading, but I personally think structure is a good thing. When children are small, the structure includes naptimes, mealtimes, etc. As they get older it evolves into boundaries like "be home at 6 for dinner" or "you can't go into soemones house without telling me first". I couldn't imagine living without structure or boundaries for my kids.
Susan

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I guess we are opposites...it doesn't occur to us to turn it on unless for a specific purpose, otherwise it's off.
PumpkinAngel
One of the few things that was very hard to give up when I was pregnant as well.
PumpkinAngel
How so? Could you give some examples of how what you watch stimulates you mentally?
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Exactly how is staring at a box while other move mental stimulation?
PumpkinAngel
Actually sushi, fresh sushi doesn't really have a smell that I have noticed....it's lucky you didn't try sushi on a cruise ship...not the place.
Just like fresh fish doesn't smell....if it smells like fish then it's not fresh.
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I agree...cruise ship food while nice to look at was not much better tasting on most occasions than frozen pizza...at least on the cruise we were on....especially the buffet's.
PumpkinAngel
Stimulating to us.
Paige
Other programs are for pure entertainment.
North Shore is akin to reading my monthly Cosmo.
Paige
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