When did structure become a bad thing?
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| Fri, 07-30-2004 - 8:19am |
We used to live next door to a "no structure" family. The kids ran wild in the neighborhood, the mom never planned dinner so lord only knows if and when the kids ate. Sorry, I don't think that's a good way to live. My kids know we eat dinner at 6:30, so they have to be home.
I can see taht you wouldn't demand that an infant go to bed and wake up at precisely the same time, but is there ever a time to impose structure on a child? So lets say you are the freewheeling type and have always doen things whenever. What happens when you send your child to school where the bell rings at the same time every day?
As far as activities, I realize all kids are different, but when my kids were little, if we just did whatever, whenever, my kids woudl end up grumpy and overtired. My experience is that if say, we were at the beach and I say, oh heck, let's just stay later, the kids woudl be happy at first, but by the days end I would end up with whiny, overtired kids.
Maybe I'm just misinterpreting what I am reading, but I personally think structure is a good thing. When children are small, the structure includes naptimes, mealtimes, etc. As they get older it evolves into boundaries like "be home at 6 for dinner" or "you can't go into soemones house without telling me first". I couldn't imagine living without structure or boundaries for my kids.
Susan

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NOW you've pissed me off.
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Susan
Tempura and other fried / cooked Japanese dishes do have smells but IMO, they smell good! Even your basic terriyaki smells good.
Anyway, I cant imagine you don't like the look of it --- if its done right its beautiful. Sushi / sashimi chefs spend years learning their art. It takes years just to learn to do the rice part properly in Japan!
I am the same way. I hate throwing away food. Hate it. It just seems decadent and wasteful. I use to try to finish the kids food and gained weight in the process. Now, I just breathe deep and feed it to the dogs. Then, it isn't going to waste.
Of course, I am a food hoarder. If there is ever a natural disaster or nuclear war, come to my house. I have more canned food and packaged meals than one should have. It is like I have lived through the Depression or something. I just can't stand to not have a full pantry. You never know if you will have an emergency.
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