When did structure become a bad thing?
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| Fri, 07-30-2004 - 8:19am |
We used to live next door to a "no structure" family. The kids ran wild in the neighborhood, the mom never planned dinner so lord only knows if and when the kids ate. Sorry, I don't think that's a good way to live. My kids know we eat dinner at 6:30, so they have to be home.
I can see taht you wouldn't demand that an infant go to bed and wake up at precisely the same time, but is there ever a time to impose structure on a child? So lets say you are the freewheeling type and have always doen things whenever. What happens when you send your child to school where the bell rings at the same time every day?
As far as activities, I realize all kids are different, but when my kids were little, if we just did whatever, whenever, my kids woudl end up grumpy and overtired. My experience is that if say, we were at the beach and I say, oh heck, let's just stay later, the kids woudl be happy at first, but by the days end I would end up with whiny, overtired kids.
Maybe I'm just misinterpreting what I am reading, but I personally think structure is a good thing. When children are small, the structure includes naptimes, mealtimes, etc. As they get older it evolves into boundaries like "be home at 6 for dinner" or "you can't go into soemones house without telling me first". I couldn't imagine living without structure or boundaries for my kids.
Susan

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Now, fried alligator is good, though it can be chewy if you don't marinate it sufficiently first. I usually make Sauce Piquant if I get hold of alligator meat.
Edited 8/23/2004 1:39 pm ET ET by cocoapop
Fried gator tastes like Kalamari.
Mondo
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Gator meat is worth a fair amount on the open market; it's a novelty food, and restaurants will pay through the nose for fresh dressed alligator.
Ahhh, but calamari and other "oddities" done right are NOT rubbery.
My fave little place in Va Beach had great calamari ... very lightly breaded and only pan fried in minimal oil. Was wonderful.
I do hate to see good food get a bad rep because the most common ways of cooking are not the most tasty. Some foods require a great cook to do right ... and too rarely get done by a mediocre cook and give the food a bad rap.
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