When did structure become a bad thing?
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| Fri, 07-30-2004 - 8:19am |
We used to live next door to a "no structure" family. The kids ran wild in the neighborhood, the mom never planned dinner so lord only knows if and when the kids ate. Sorry, I don't think that's a good way to live. My kids know we eat dinner at 6:30, so they have to be home.
I can see taht you wouldn't demand that an infant go to bed and wake up at precisely the same time, but is there ever a time to impose structure on a child? So lets say you are the freewheeling type and have always doen things whenever. What happens when you send your child to school where the bell rings at the same time every day?
As far as activities, I realize all kids are different, but when my kids were little, if we just did whatever, whenever, my kids woudl end up grumpy and overtired. My experience is that if say, we were at the beach and I say, oh heck, let's just stay later, the kids woudl be happy at first, but by the days end I would end up with whiny, overtired kids.
Maybe I'm just misinterpreting what I am reading, but I personally think structure is a good thing. When children are small, the structure includes naptimes, mealtimes, etc. As they get older it evolves into boundaries like "be home at 6 for dinner" or "you can't go into soemones house without telling me first". I couldn't imagine living without structure or boundaries for my kids.
Susan

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case in point: have you ever sat and watched the eddie murphy movie The Nutty Professor? I cried when i watched it, because it was so hurtful and my kids sat there and laughed. i have never even seen it through and have no desire to. why hasnt a movie about someone who is anorexic been made, and found so humorous?? why?? why is being fat so funny, and thin is wonderful, and beautiful, and something "to be"?? i know plenty of thin people who i am heads and shoulders kinder, smarter, funnier than, but these people are perceived to be "prettier" than i. im not saying im unattractive, and i am very proud of who i am, but why is it ok to mock fat people, and not thin? that is a double standard as well, and i in NO WAY condone or defend it, as *some* posters imply(cruelly i might add).
Okay. . .this is just me playing armchair psychologist, but bear with me.
No, I have not see The Nutty Professor because I purposely avoid watching programing where I know the theme of it is to ridicule people.
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ROFLMAO.....vanity???? moi??? that is about as opposite from me as you can get . LOL. that was truly hilarious.
ok, im going to say this really clearly and slowly for the comprehension challenged. SAYING PEOPLE WHO ARE THIN BY THE GRACE OF GOD, DOES ***NOT*** IMPLY**** ALL****THIN*** PEOPLE****ARE***THIN***BY***THE***GRACE****0F****G0D!!!!!!! So get off it. Go twist someone elses words.
You are turning it into a vanity issue because you are implying that Dj has mentioned it several times to brag which wasn't the case thus making it a vanity issue.
I haven't twisted your words and I'm not the only poster who thought you meant something different than you are saying now. So it's not a comprehension challenge but rather an expression one.`Lisa
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