When did structure become a bad thing?
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| Fri, 07-30-2004 - 8:19am |
We used to live next door to a "no structure" family. The kids ran wild in the neighborhood, the mom never planned dinner so lord only knows if and when the kids ate. Sorry, I don't think that's a good way to live. My kids know we eat dinner at 6:30, so they have to be home.
I can see taht you wouldn't demand that an infant go to bed and wake up at precisely the same time, but is there ever a time to impose structure on a child? So lets say you are the freewheeling type and have always doen things whenever. What happens when you send your child to school where the bell rings at the same time every day?
As far as activities, I realize all kids are different, but when my kids were little, if we just did whatever, whenever, my kids woudl end up grumpy and overtired. My experience is that if say, we were at the beach and I say, oh heck, let's just stay later, the kids woudl be happy at first, but by the days end I would end up with whiny, overtired kids.
Maybe I'm just misinterpreting what I am reading, but I personally think structure is a good thing. When children are small, the structure includes naptimes, mealtimes, etc. As they get older it evolves into boundaries like "be home at 6 for dinner" or "you can't go into soemones house without telling me first". I couldn't imagine living without structure or boundaries for my kids.
Susan

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Again, I'll go back and re-read kathyatps' post, and remind myself that there are feelings behind screen names. And I'll stop right here trying to explain anything further.
Yes (and you didn't even need to edit, I knew what you meant, but had to clarify to avoid leaving it that way for future debate fodder).
BTW, isn't logic a prereq for law school?
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I don't purport to think that those shows are completely factually accurate. But they do hold some semblance of the truth (i.e. you can't search a suspect's home without a warrant, but any item laying in plain view is usable evidence as it didn't require a search to be found, rules of eventual discovery, the use of luminol to detect blood at a crime scene, etc) that the common layperson does not know.
I don't think the shows are educational ... but definitely stimulating.
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Karen
"A pocketknife is like a melody;sharp in some places,
I'm not into the raw fish thing (and I have NO idea why because I'm just fine with steak tartar, so it's clearly just a weirdo idiosyncracy), but I ADORE *cooked* Japanese food.
I wish we could get the same kind of white rice that they use in Japan--as you say it takes years to learn to cook it properly, but it hasn't been so overprocessed that all the fiber coating is gone and it's as high fiber/low glycemic as brown rice. My one remaining kitchen "dream" is to have a really good quality rice steamer.....sigh...one day :)
Karen
"A pocketknife is like a melody;sharp in some places,
I guess I am having a hard time wrapping my brain around the fact you think tv is stimulating is that I think in normal circumstances some interaction is needed for mental stimulation.
PumpkinAngel
It can be stimulating. It is stimulating at times.
Other times it can not be stimulating.
Like last night, we watched a stimulating documentary but then we watched two comedies show just for the entertainment valule, not stimulating.
Sorry it wasn't clear.
I don't always have time to read everything word for word & I post in haste between tv shows, cooking, or whatever.
Sorry for any confusion again.
Paige
I guess I am a different creature because I enjoy the silence and the thinking in my head while I do other things.
PumpkinAngel
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