When did structure become a bad thing?
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| Fri, 07-30-2004 - 8:19am |
We used to live next door to a "no structure" family. The kids ran wild in the neighborhood, the mom never planned dinner so lord only knows if and when the kids ate. Sorry, I don't think that's a good way to live. My kids know we eat dinner at 6:30, so they have to be home.
I can see taht you wouldn't demand that an infant go to bed and wake up at precisely the same time, but is there ever a time to impose structure on a child? So lets say you are the freewheeling type and have always doen things whenever. What happens when you send your child to school where the bell rings at the same time every day?
As far as activities, I realize all kids are different, but when my kids were little, if we just did whatever, whenever, my kids woudl end up grumpy and overtired. My experience is that if say, we were at the beach and I say, oh heck, let's just stay later, the kids woudl be happy at first, but by the days end I would end up with whiny, overtired kids.
Maybe I'm just misinterpreting what I am reading, but I personally think structure is a good thing. When children are small, the structure includes naptimes, mealtimes, etc. As they get older it evolves into boundaries like "be home at 6 for dinner" or "you can't go into soemones house without telling me first". I couldn't imagine living without structure or boundaries for my kids.
Susan

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<<< and DJ, being a compassionate, thoughtful human, apologized for the fact that the thread had offended your sister.>>> omg! i wonder how many others just hurled over that one as well.
dj took abuse from me?????? i made a joke about a hypothetical, ironic situation, and dj comes out of left field to announce to the world, that means i have something against *all* thin people! H@!! i married a SKINNY man, and have three SKINNY KIDS! what a crock of ch!t. and if you bother to read, dj made an off color remark even after this thread was in progress about how people at the carnival(or wherever) eat soooooo much, and she just doesnt know where they put it! WHO THE H@!! CARES???? I have absolutely no hangups or interest in what others eat, dont eat, how they eat, and how big, small, fat skinny they are. she is the one who is judgemental and tries to masquarade it as something its not. its pure ugly, and i for one can see right through it. you need to remove your rose-colored glasses.
Paige
thanks for sharing. it sounded sooooo familiar.
<<>>> LOL, for real. that would be too blatant though. underhanded remarks are much more attractive.
I think you are taking DJ's comments the wrong way. Eating healthy is important to her so she notices what kinds of food people eat.Pretty simple concept really but for some reason you want to make this personal.~Lisa
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