When did structure become a bad thing?
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| Fri, 07-30-2004 - 8:19am |
We used to live next door to a "no structure" family. The kids ran wild in the neighborhood, the mom never planned dinner so lord only knows if and when the kids ate. Sorry, I don't think that's a good way to live. My kids know we eat dinner at 6:30, so they have to be home.
I can see taht you wouldn't demand that an infant go to bed and wake up at precisely the same time, but is there ever a time to impose structure on a child? So lets say you are the freewheeling type and have always doen things whenever. What happens when you send your child to school where the bell rings at the same time every day?
As far as activities, I realize all kids are different, but when my kids were little, if we just did whatever, whenever, my kids woudl end up grumpy and overtired. My experience is that if say, we were at the beach and I say, oh heck, let's just stay later, the kids woudl be happy at first, but by the days end I would end up with whiny, overtired kids.
Maybe I'm just misinterpreting what I am reading, but I personally think structure is a good thing. When children are small, the structure includes naptimes, mealtimes, etc. As they get older it evolves into boundaries like "be home at 6 for dinner" or "you can't go into soemones house without telling me first". I couldn't imagine living without structure or boundaries for my kids.
Susan

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I meant "so as in so what" she does not like sports. I think people, men or women, boys or girls, who don't like sports, viewing or participating, are not losing out on anything at all.
People & kids can be active & exercise in other ways.
Paige
Dh & I have our tv time to watch news & shows that are not child appropriate once she has been all tucked in.
We usually sleep with the tv on but we always like to see the late night local news before we go to sleep.
Paige
Meaning, we don't own equipment. We don't go to a gym.
Paige
You can leave it to child appropriate programming so that there is no worry of her viewing something she should not.
We turn the tv off when we leave the room, go outside, go someplace.
We sleep with the tv on. But the tv in the bedroom is only on when we are in there or it is turned off.
Paige
Paige
If EVERY mother you know serves only junk food at parties (like the one you described) and (since you are privey to what's in her grocery cart as you said above) at home, and at the beach, and at the park where you meet, I think it's a pretty good guess vegetable sales must be faltering. And you also made it quite clear that you were included in on that "everyone" group.
So get back to me when you can decide which is it.
dj
Dj
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Dj
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