When did structure become a bad thing?
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| Fri, 07-30-2004 - 8:19am |
We used to live next door to a "no structure" family. The kids ran wild in the neighborhood, the mom never planned dinner so lord only knows if and when the kids ate. Sorry, I don't think that's a good way to live. My kids know we eat dinner at 6:30, so they have to be home.
I can see taht you wouldn't demand that an infant go to bed and wake up at precisely the same time, but is there ever a time to impose structure on a child? So lets say you are the freewheeling type and have always doen things whenever. What happens when you send your child to school where the bell rings at the same time every day?
As far as activities, I realize all kids are different, but when my kids were little, if we just did whatever, whenever, my kids woudl end up grumpy and overtired. My experience is that if say, we were at the beach and I say, oh heck, let's just stay later, the kids woudl be happy at first, but by the days end I would end up with whiny, overtired kids.
Maybe I'm just misinterpreting what I am reading, but I personally think structure is a good thing. When children are small, the structure includes naptimes, mealtimes, etc. As they get older it evolves into boundaries like "be home at 6 for dinner" or "you can't go into soemones house without telling me first". I couldn't imagine living without structure or boundaries for my kids.
Susan

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Get off your high horse.
I won't be responding to any more of your posts that are dripping with rudeness & sarcasm.
I've got better things to do with my time.
Paige
dj
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
I said we watch 3 hours of family time tv.
Once dd is asleep dh & I continue to watch tv.
I've never hid that fact. I've mentioned it several times in this thread.
Paige
Do you have ANY clue about appropriate nutrition, at all?????????????
dj
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
I don't really think about doing a few stretches as exercise.
I think of exercise as more of being on a treadmill, going to an aerobics class.
My dd does not go on the brisk walks with me, you are wrong, sorry.
Paige
Yes, you are completely inconsistent, and completely unbelievable. What, are people NOT supposed to take what you say at face value? Is there some mysterious innuendo we are supposed to *magically* read into your posts that lead us to believe differently than EXACTLY what you post?????
dj
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
If you want to call floating around on a raft, hanging out leisurely in the water, doing just a few laps (definately not even 10) exercise, go ahead.
You asked me what I do that I'm not sitting in a chair or stretched out in bed.
I answered and you still have a problem. Get over it is my best advice to you.
Paige
Paige
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