When did structure become a bad thing?
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| Fri, 07-30-2004 - 8:19am |
We used to live next door to a "no structure" family. The kids ran wild in the neighborhood, the mom never planned dinner so lord only knows if and when the kids ate. Sorry, I don't think that's a good way to live. My kids know we eat dinner at 6:30, so they have to be home.
I can see taht you wouldn't demand that an infant go to bed and wake up at precisely the same time, but is there ever a time to impose structure on a child? So lets say you are the freewheeling type and have always doen things whenever. What happens when you send your child to school where the bell rings at the same time every day?
As far as activities, I realize all kids are different, but when my kids were little, if we just did whatever, whenever, my kids woudl end up grumpy and overtired. My experience is that if say, we were at the beach and I say, oh heck, let's just stay later, the kids woudl be happy at first, but by the days end I would end up with whiny, overtired kids.
Maybe I'm just misinterpreting what I am reading, but I personally think structure is a good thing. When children are small, the structure includes naptimes, mealtimes, etc. As they get older it evolves into boundaries like "be home at 6 for dinner" or "you can't go into soemones house without telling me first". I couldn't imagine living without structure or boundaries for my kids.
Susan

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OK, so if you just do a few leisurely laps and lounge around on a raft, why are you now holding up your swimming as an example of how you stay active?
And on the flipside, if you make a point to walk briskly while tracking how many calories you are burning, why did you say you never exercise?
Of course we're confused. You keep making up stuff on the fly and changing your story.
You claimed to never exercise. Then spend countless posts denying that fact. Then you state and prove in this post that you DON'T exercise. LOL Yeah Right.
The only reason DJ has a problem is because you can't keep your story straight.
Which is false!
I've explained over & over about the exercise thing. I don't do any formal exercising. No classes, no gym, no equipment. Yes, if I take a brisk walk I'd like to see how many calories I've burned so I bought one of those little gadgets after I saw my mom's. Big deal, really.
I have not made up one thing & have not changed my story.
I do not consider floating around the pool & doing a few laps as exercise. Do you? I don't. But I'm not sitting on the sofa all the time.
I do not consider sitting in the floor with a cup of coffee doing a few stetches as exercise. Do you? But I'm not sitting n the sofa all the time.
You know what, I get asked to tell what I do other than sit & watch tv. I tell. Then I get blasted. Why? For tellling the truth, I get blasted! If people did not want to know what I do other than watch tv and eat ho hos then they shouldn't have asked then I wouldn't ever brought up the walking, floor exercises, and swimming!
Paige
Paige
You tape the shows & then you get to watch them at a more convenient time.
Paige
Do you even comprehend how bizarre your posts are sounding here?
dj
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
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