When did structure become a bad thing?
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| Fri, 07-30-2004 - 8:19am |
We used to live next door to a "no structure" family. The kids ran wild in the neighborhood, the mom never planned dinner so lord only knows if and when the kids ate. Sorry, I don't think that's a good way to live. My kids know we eat dinner at 6:30, so they have to be home.
I can see taht you wouldn't demand that an infant go to bed and wake up at precisely the same time, but is there ever a time to impose structure on a child? So lets say you are the freewheeling type and have always doen things whenever. What happens when you send your child to school where the bell rings at the same time every day?
As far as activities, I realize all kids are different, but when my kids were little, if we just did whatever, whenever, my kids woudl end up grumpy and overtired. My experience is that if say, we were at the beach and I say, oh heck, let's just stay later, the kids woudl be happy at first, but by the days end I would end up with whiny, overtired kids.
Maybe I'm just misinterpreting what I am reading, but I personally think structure is a good thing. When children are small, the structure includes naptimes, mealtimes, etc. As they get older it evolves into boundaries like "be home at 6 for dinner" or "you can't go into soemones house without telling me first". I couldn't imagine living without structure or boundaries for my kids.
Susan

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What is the problem with that???????????
NONE!
Cathleena
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
outside_the_box_mom
oh, and as for sedentary...
sed·en·tar·y Audio pronunciation of SEDENTARY ( P ) Pronunciation Key (sdn-tr)
adj.
1. Characterized by or requiring much sitting: a sedentary job.
2. Accustomed to sitting or to taking little exercise.
3. Remaining or living in one area, as certain birds; not migratory.
4. Attached to a surface and not moving freely, as a barnacle.
see #2
eileen
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Oh, I much prefer silence too, but then again, I tend to tune alot of stuff out.
The local news doesn't have alot of gore in it. They will discuss the latest kidnapping, the latest fire and murder/homicide...but to great lengths and normally w/out visuals.
If my oldest was prone to getting scared easily, I would probably take your same route.
That they don't exercise & really could care less.
That they aren't eating the perfect meals & the perfect snacks or whatever people would deem are appropriate for others.
I find it refreshing that a person is not afraid to stand up and say we watch tv, we watch it for 3 hours, we watch it for 5 hours, we eat pizza, chicken tenders & have twinkies for our meal all sitting in front of the television.
That we hate sports whether it be going to them, watching them, or playing them.
Much more refreshing than the opposite bandwagon that everyone is doing what is suppose to be socially acceptable. Oh no, not allowing our kiddies a cola expect a splash for a sip or two on rare occasions. We only eat carrot sticks & celery, maybe some whole wheat crackers & cheese for snacks. But not sweets. We eat bagels. Not fruity pebbles for breakfast. We would never serve thick juicy burgers with a side of mac n' cheese and doritios. We serve special fish from a special source grilled with brocoli & spinach salad as the sides.
Blech I say!
Cathleena
Bring your pooch and yours and mine can run each other ragged too. ;-)
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