When did structure become a bad thing?
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| Fri, 07-30-2004 - 8:19am |
We used to live next door to a "no structure" family. The kids ran wild in the neighborhood, the mom never planned dinner so lord only knows if and when the kids ate. Sorry, I don't think that's a good way to live. My kids know we eat dinner at 6:30, so they have to be home.
I can see taht you wouldn't demand that an infant go to bed and wake up at precisely the same time, but is there ever a time to impose structure on a child? So lets say you are the freewheeling type and have always doen things whenever. What happens when you send your child to school where the bell rings at the same time every day?
As far as activities, I realize all kids are different, but when my kids were little, if we just did whatever, whenever, my kids woudl end up grumpy and overtired. My experience is that if say, we were at the beach and I say, oh heck, let's just stay later, the kids woudl be happy at first, but by the days end I would end up with whiny, overtired kids.
Maybe I'm just misinterpreting what I am reading, but I personally think structure is a good thing. When children are small, the structure includes naptimes, mealtimes, etc. As they get older it evolves into boundaries like "be home at 6 for dinner" or "you can't go into soemones house without telling me first". I couldn't imagine living without structure or boundaries for my kids.
Susan

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kudos to her for admitting it...sadly, though, she can't consider that there could be MAJOR health repercussions down the road AND that it does, in fact, set a very poor example for her child.
What's the problem with THAT?
NONE - but certainly not an example that i would willingly and proudly set for my kids.
eileen
No thanks. i'll shield my kids from these realities of life a little bit longer. They have watched the "feel good" stuff when we were getting lots of our news coverage about alyssa.
eileen
It is not less than desirable, but rather optimal for those who feel the other way & live on the other side of the fence.
Cathleena
No, you and Paige have the same mental block.
Not exercising at all or enough and eating the wrong kinds of food consistently and regularly is OBJECTIVELY bad, it's not a matter of opinion at all.
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Dang it, it's only 10 am!
It isn't that I refuse it as fact. I simply don't believe tv harming of adults or children.
Cathleena
Guess that is why I'm sympathetic to her in this thread. I really understand her side of the fence because I'm sitting on with my dh & children.
Cathleena
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