When did structure become a bad thing?
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| Fri, 07-30-2004 - 8:19am |
We used to live next door to a "no structure" family. The kids ran wild in the neighborhood, the mom never planned dinner so lord only knows if and when the kids ate. Sorry, I don't think that's a good way to live. My kids know we eat dinner at 6:30, so they have to be home.
I can see taht you wouldn't demand that an infant go to bed and wake up at precisely the same time, but is there ever a time to impose structure on a child? So lets say you are the freewheeling type and have always doen things whenever. What happens when you send your child to school where the bell rings at the same time every day?
As far as activities, I realize all kids are different, but when my kids were little, if we just did whatever, whenever, my kids woudl end up grumpy and overtired. My experience is that if say, we were at the beach and I say, oh heck, let's just stay later, the kids woudl be happy at first, but by the days end I would end up with whiny, overtired kids.
Maybe I'm just misinterpreting what I am reading, but I personally think structure is a good thing. When children are small, the structure includes naptimes, mealtimes, etc. As they get older it evolves into boundaries like "be home at 6 for dinner" or "you can't go into soemones house without telling me first". I couldn't imagine living without structure or boundaries for my kids.
Susan

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This weekend I took my co-workers granddaughter to see The Princess Diaries. We are walking through the parking lot at the mall and I see a Lexus something or another. Felicia, the car had 2 DVD's in it. Two!! Why??
Zak is begging for a DVD player in the car. I just refuse. Can we have one place where boredom sets in and the constant noise just fades? The car is my place of sancutary and I am not willing to put a DVD player in it.
&nbs
Our television sets are like members of our family. We pack them with us everywhere we go.
But actually, we don't really GO anywhere because we're always sitting in front of the ol' boob tube! That's what works for us and we are lovin' it!
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Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
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