When did structure become a bad thing?
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| Fri, 07-30-2004 - 8:19am |
We used to live next door to a "no structure" family. The kids ran wild in the neighborhood, the mom never planned dinner so lord only knows if and when the kids ate. Sorry, I don't think that's a good way to live. My kids know we eat dinner at 6:30, so they have to be home.
I can see taht you wouldn't demand that an infant go to bed and wake up at precisely the same time, but is there ever a time to impose structure on a child? So lets say you are the freewheeling type and have always doen things whenever. What happens when you send your child to school where the bell rings at the same time every day?
As far as activities, I realize all kids are different, but when my kids were little, if we just did whatever, whenever, my kids woudl end up grumpy and overtired. My experience is that if say, we were at the beach and I say, oh heck, let's just stay later, the kids woudl be happy at first, but by the days end I would end up with whiny, overtired kids.
Maybe I'm just misinterpreting what I am reading, but I personally think structure is a good thing. When children are small, the structure includes naptimes, mealtimes, etc. As they get older it evolves into boundaries like "be home at 6 for dinner" or "you can't go into soemones house without telling me first". I couldn't imagine living without structure or boundaries for my kids.
Susan

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It would help corroborate your claim to be a PP poster if you could give the name of a board upon which you regularly post at that site.
I wouldn't go so far as to say you ARE an alias. . .but your emergence from (seemingly) nowhere with TV habits even worse than Paige's is suspect at best.
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
I really don't care that you have a billion tvs in your house.
Oh, come now, Merella. You know you are jealous in your secret heart of hearts. You know you dream of the day that solitude doesn't exist and you can watch TV even while you use the bathroom. You can outside and garden and watch the TV you implanted into the tree.
I have always wanted to live in a world with constant noise. I personally have televisions everywhere in my house, in my car and in my yard. If, heaven forbid, the electricity goes out I have two boys and three dogs and one gerbil to fulfill my need for constant noise. Of course, I sometimes forget I have children because of the televisions but they manage to find food for themselves and dress themselves.
I personally am green with envy at TulipsandRose and wish I could have so many televisions also.
(sarcasm disclaimer)
"When death like a gypsy comes
&nbs
Karen
"A pocketknife is like a melody;sharp in some places,
Karen
"A pocketknife is like a melody;sharp in some places,
Badgering is the measure of the motion of posters in relation to their mass and velocity?
What is it, exactly, that you're trying to say here?
Karen
"A pocketknife is like a melody;sharp in some places,
ROFL - perhaps my feelings about tv are tied in the fact that my father used to BLARE the tv b/c he refused to admit he was losing his hearing and needed a hearing aid.
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