When did structure become a bad thing?
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| Fri, 07-30-2004 - 8:19am |
We used to live next door to a "no structure" family. The kids ran wild in the neighborhood, the mom never planned dinner so lord only knows if and when the kids ate. Sorry, I don't think that's a good way to live. My kids know we eat dinner at 6:30, so they have to be home.
I can see taht you wouldn't demand that an infant go to bed and wake up at precisely the same time, but is there ever a time to impose structure on a child? So lets say you are the freewheeling type and have always doen things whenever. What happens when you send your child to school where the bell rings at the same time every day?
As far as activities, I realize all kids are different, but when my kids were little, if we just did whatever, whenever, my kids woudl end up grumpy and overtired. My experience is that if say, we were at the beach and I say, oh heck, let's just stay later, the kids woudl be happy at first, but by the days end I would end up with whiny, overtired kids.
Maybe I'm just misinterpreting what I am reading, but I personally think structure is a good thing. When children are small, the structure includes naptimes, mealtimes, etc. As they get older it evolves into boundaries like "be home at 6 for dinner" or "you can't go into soemones house without telling me first". I couldn't imagine living without structure or boundaries for my kids.
Susan

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But I think Dr's and medical profesionals should absolutely help educate their patients on everything from developmental issues, to diet and exercise.
MM
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Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
And when she did finally post, again, she changed her story. First she said *I swim every day*. Then it was *Oh well I lay in the pool on a lounger* Then started making wierd accustations about *OH well if YOU want to call that exercise go ahead* when SHE was the one calling it exercise in the first place.
When people appear to be purposely posting conflicting info, it irritates me. Because it implies that they must think we are a bunch of idiots who arent going to notice inconsistencies and fall for these ridiculous stories hook line and sinker. If someone wants to come on here and tell stories, go for it. But dont act all hurt fee fees when they get called on their nonsense.
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Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
MM
I only told the truth.
I don't care if you like that we watch as much as tv as we do & that we eat the way we do. That we live & make the choices of how to spend our days & live our lives. Your opinions are your own. So are your views on these subjects. They do not even pretend to affect our lives or change them in any manner.
I posted nothing ridiculous. I posted about my life & how I lead it, how I think about these issues. If you can't handle the truth, it really is your problem, not mine, isn't it?
I don't think any person here is an idiot or anything else but a nice group of ladies.
Hurt feelings? I didn't get my feelings hurt one bit. I could care less what you think. I don't see how you feel about tv viewing and nutrition should hurt me, affect me, or make me change my way of living one little itsy bitsy bit.
I didn't answer posts because quite frankly I thought some were being a bit too nosey. Debating material, even personal, is one thing. But when it gets down to exactly what are you_____________ (insert) then I think the poster asking the question(s) has definately crossed a line.
I do not know who this tulips & rose person is but I can assure you that I would not go so low and deep in depth & waste precious time to go to those lengths!!!!!!!!!!!!
I don't think I encountered silly school girls in my jr high & high school years that have acted & behaved the way this board has today. I don't think I've encountered a kindergartener or first grader that would act in this manner. If they did in my class their parent would be contacted immediately about their unruly behavior.
Furthermore, I returned to work today so I have just been at the board for about 30 minutes now reading through this glob & I didn't even read every post because it got boring quickly!
Good Night!
Paige
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