When did structure become a bad thing?
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| Fri, 07-30-2004 - 8:19am |
We used to live next door to a "no structure" family. The kids ran wild in the neighborhood, the mom never planned dinner so lord only knows if and when the kids ate. Sorry, I don't think that's a good way to live. My kids know we eat dinner at 6:30, so they have to be home.
I can see taht you wouldn't demand that an infant go to bed and wake up at precisely the same time, but is there ever a time to impose structure on a child? So lets say you are the freewheeling type and have always doen things whenever. What happens when you send your child to school where the bell rings at the same time every day?
As far as activities, I realize all kids are different, but when my kids were little, if we just did whatever, whenever, my kids woudl end up grumpy and overtired. My experience is that if say, we were at the beach and I say, oh heck, let's just stay later, the kids woudl be happy at first, but by the days end I would end up with whiny, overtired kids.
Maybe I'm just misinterpreting what I am reading, but I personally think structure is a good thing. When children are small, the structure includes naptimes, mealtimes, etc. As they get older it evolves into boundaries like "be home at 6 for dinner" or "you can't go into soemones house without telling me first". I couldn't imagine living without structure or boundaries for my kids.
Susan

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Whoa, Nelly! If her husband is a ped, why doesn't he give her medication for the car sickness? Perhaps I am obtuse but wouldn't a DVD player make it worse? Devin had car sickness and he couldn't read or try to concentrate on anything because it would make the car sickness worse.
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Actually, I would ask you to actually *ask* your dh whether he brings up TV watching. I want to give him the benefit of doubt and assume that you're just saying all this w/o really knowing what he does in his office.
Have you tried everything else? Talked to your ped (isn't your DH one?) about this? I've heard acupressure treatment can work even on small children.
I find it unbelievable that the DVD is the sole "magical cure" for this car sickness.
I think of it this way. My dd can watch TV or a DVD for about an hour a day so if she's watching a DVD that she may be normally watching at home for that hour, what difference does it make that it's on a plane?
Linda - wife, mother, grandmum &nb
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