When did structure become a bad thing?
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| Fri, 07-30-2004 - 8:19am |
We used to live next door to a "no structure" family. The kids ran wild in the neighborhood, the mom never planned dinner so lord only knows if and when the kids ate. Sorry, I don't think that's a good way to live. My kids know we eat dinner at 6:30, so they have to be home.
I can see taht you wouldn't demand that an infant go to bed and wake up at precisely the same time, but is there ever a time to impose structure on a child? So lets say you are the freewheeling type and have always doen things whenever. What happens when you send your child to school where the bell rings at the same time every day?
As far as activities, I realize all kids are different, but when my kids were little, if we just did whatever, whenever, my kids woudl end up grumpy and overtired. My experience is that if say, we were at the beach and I say, oh heck, let's just stay later, the kids woudl be happy at first, but by the days end I would end up with whiny, overtired kids.
Maybe I'm just misinterpreting what I am reading, but I personally think structure is a good thing. When children are small, the structure includes naptimes, mealtimes, etc. As they get older it evolves into boundaries like "be home at 6 for dinner" or "you can't go into soemones house without telling me first". I couldn't imagine living without structure or boundaries for my kids.
Susan

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I'm proud to say I've only read 1 "childrearing" book. Books are unreliable IMO. The book concerned Sleep - by Ferber.
Do you ask your OB/GYN how many candles to light for a romantic dinner or whether oysters are truly an aphrodisiac?
No, but I did talk to her about how to increase my sex drive and frequency of orgasms. That's not related to my physical well being.
Guess I'm nuts and insane for talking to my OB/GYN about this rather than a psychiatrist . . .
My mother put me to sleep on my stomach as a newborn.
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I can't speak for all medical schools but at least the one that I went to (and I went to a pretty good one), the ones who got the top marks did have good bedside manners.
DH is known for not only being a great dentist, but also having a very comforting and friendly chairside manner.
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
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