When did structure become a bad thing?
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| Fri, 07-30-2004 - 8:19am |
We used to live next door to a "no structure" family. The kids ran wild in the neighborhood, the mom never planned dinner so lord only knows if and when the kids ate. Sorry, I don't think that's a good way to live. My kids know we eat dinner at 6:30, so they have to be home.
I can see taht you wouldn't demand that an infant go to bed and wake up at precisely the same time, but is there ever a time to impose structure on a child? So lets say you are the freewheeling type and have always doen things whenever. What happens when you send your child to school where the bell rings at the same time every day?
As far as activities, I realize all kids are different, but when my kids were little, if we just did whatever, whenever, my kids woudl end up grumpy and overtired. My experience is that if say, we were at the beach and I say, oh heck, let's just stay later, the kids woudl be happy at first, but by the days end I would end up with whiny, overtired kids.
Maybe I'm just misinterpreting what I am reading, but I personally think structure is a good thing. When children are small, the structure includes naptimes, mealtimes, etc. As they get older it evolves into boundaries like "be home at 6 for dinner" or "you can't go into soemones house without telling me first". I couldn't imagine living without structure or boundaries for my kids.
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Also, you didnt answer my question as to what would you say if someone took this position on something like carseats or smoking.
And how do you feel about the health problems plaguing our country today?
Any real responses or debate? Or are your just going to keep stomping those feet and insisting you dont care what anyone thinks, lol? Rest assured, no one on this board really takes it to heart for the most part, so none of us care too deeply what people here think.
dj
Edited 8/17/2004 6:53 pm ET ET by djknappsak
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Why do you think that the reports and recommendations from the AAP are invalid? Do you have other information or links to articles that show otherwise? I dont necessarily buy into the *no tv under 2* theory, but I have read up a lot on how television watching affects brain activity and hard wiring development, and I certainly wouldnt say that the reports and studies are completely without merit (or *blubber*, as you put it). I have yet to come across any information that heavily discounts the research that has been done.
Funny, you say that you see smoking as a more serious issue, but it wasnt all that long ago that people had NO IDEA about the health risks of smoking. And when the studies started coming out about how bad it was, a lot of people said it was just a bunch of *blubber*.
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