When did structure become a bad thing?
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| Fri, 07-30-2004 - 8:19am |
We used to live next door to a "no structure" family. The kids ran wild in the neighborhood, the mom never planned dinner so lord only knows if and when the kids ate. Sorry, I don't think that's a good way to live. My kids know we eat dinner at 6:30, so they have to be home.
I can see taht you wouldn't demand that an infant go to bed and wake up at precisely the same time, but is there ever a time to impose structure on a child? So lets say you are the freewheeling type and have always doen things whenever. What happens when you send your child to school where the bell rings at the same time every day?
As far as activities, I realize all kids are different, but when my kids were little, if we just did whatever, whenever, my kids woudl end up grumpy and overtired. My experience is that if say, we were at the beach and I say, oh heck, let's just stay later, the kids woudl be happy at first, but by the days end I would end up with whiny, overtired kids.
Maybe I'm just misinterpreting what I am reading, but I personally think structure is a good thing. When children are small, the structure includes naptimes, mealtimes, etc. As they get older it evolves into boundaries like "be home at 6 for dinner" or "you can't go into soemones house without telling me first". I couldn't imagine living without structure or boundaries for my kids.
Susan

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it's just that i haven't been intimate with ANYONE in a long, long time, LOL! I hope i remember how when the time is right!
eileen
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And I am also entitled to the opinion that a good dr. who is working hard with her patients and is teaching at a respected medical college and is publishing could not possibly have time to post on a frivolous message board as frequently as you do. That's my opinion and I would not have aired it had you not been so uncivil.
Color me confused. I thought I had been following closely and Audrey was a research doctor. I could be wrong..Lord knows I thought Cyducks had been married.
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<> Me: Do you think I just wandered into a specialist's office off the street? Are you suggesting I'm lying about something here? Because I just don't see what you've contributed to this discussion at all except to throw in silly, tired things like "3x5 card" and soon I guess "the pot and the kettle" thing.
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