At that moment in time, yes. Do you always feel like doing everything? You really ought go give it up here. You seem to be the only one who thinks this is a HUGE issue.
Yes, sometimes my dh doesn't feel like doing something. I would say that makes him human.
I'm happy to give it up, as long as you're going to give up your claim that mom working automatically leads to parental equality, whereas mom sah automatically leads to parental inequality.
I said it leads to a more equal division of parenting and that is supported by research. Dh's of WM's do more parenting than the dh's of SAHM's. So, no I'm not giving up my claim that WOH promotes more equal parenting. Because it does.
I've given you examples from my own life. Because I WOH, my dh gets up every morning, cooks the kids breakfast, gets them dressed, makes sure they have their homework (previously packed diaper bag) and gets them off to school. He solo's about 7 hours a week because I'm not there in addition to any time I take in the evenings for me time. This is pretty common if the men in my office are any indication.
Equality, as I've said before, is probably a couple of generations off. Each generation is improving. Just look at the increases in parenting time over the last 50 years. Moms went to work yet parenting time went up not down. Moms alone today are spending as much time parenting as women did in the 1950's. The increase is dad.
That IS my argument. I've never said it's entirely equal. I said it's more equal as in closer to equal because I work and that I stand by. Time studies back up that this is seen in general with WM's but they also indicate that it's not equal yet. I want to say 40/60 for DWP's and 35/65 for SAHP's.
Still, I'll take my dh doing 67% of the parenting I do over him doing 54% of the parenting I do. And I'll hope that it will be a little more natural for the generation of boys being raised now to see their wives as equals and themselves as equally responsible parents.
"Believe me, many of us would love to live in a world where the "Chore Wars" don't exist."
I know many, many people that don't have "chore wars"....it's called hiring a cleaning lady.
I don't think it has anything to do with woh or sah.
I sah, dh works. Neither of us like to clean....solution....cleaning lady. Dh dislikes mowing the lawn(as much as I dislike cleaning) solution....lawn man.
That's just what I told my dh. I told him to hire a cleaner to come every week, not only to clean but also to plan the menus, do the grocery shopping, cook the meals, clean up after them, change the sheets, do the laundry, fold it, and put it away, and pitch in with the kids, i.e., see that they do their homework, pick up their rooms, practice their instruments, get off the phone once in a while, take care of the cats... and while they're at it, to get the kids off to their activities on time. Yes, and to make sure the garbage gets hauled to the dump, the bills get paid, and the yard work gets done. It would also be great if the cleaner took care of the car.
But for some reason, he just hasn't gotten around to it. Can't figure out if he's having trouble finding a cleaner who's up to it, or if he thinks it's my job to find one.
Sabina
Oh, lifeis a glorious cycle of song, a medley of extemporanea:
And love is a thing that can never go wrong; and I am Marie of Roumania.
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At that moment in time, yes. Do you always feel like doing everything? You really ought go give it up here. You seem to be the only one who thinks this is a HUGE issue.
Yes, sometimes my dh doesn't feel like doing something. I would say that makes him human.
I said it leads to a more equal division of parenting and that is supported by research. Dh's of WM's do more parenting than the dh's of SAHM's. So, no I'm not giving up my claim that WOH promotes more equal parenting. Because it does.
I've given you examples from my own life. Because I WOH, my dh gets up every morning, cooks the kids breakfast, gets them dressed, makes sure they have their homework (previously packed diaper bag) and gets them off to school. He solo's about 7 hours a week because I'm not there in addition to any time I take in the evenings for me time. This is pretty common if the men in my office are any indication.
Equality, as I've said before, is probably a couple of generations off. Each generation is improving. Just look at the increases in parenting time over the last 50 years. Moms went to work yet parenting time went up not down. Moms alone today are spending as much time parenting as women did in the 1950's. The increase is dad.
That IS my argument. I've never said it's entirely equal. I said it's more equal as in closer to equal because I work and that I stand by. Time studies back up that this is seen in general with WM's but they also indicate that it's not equal yet. I want to say 40/60 for DWP's and 35/65 for SAHP's.
Still, I'll take my dh doing 67% of the parenting I do over him doing 54% of the parenting I do. And I'll hope that it will be a little more natural for the generation of boys being raised now to see their wives as equals and themselves as equally responsible parents.
"Believe me, many of us would love to live in a world where the "Chore Wars" don't exist."
I know many, many people that don't have "chore wars"....it's called hiring a cleaning lady.
I don't think it has anything to do with woh or sah.
I sah, dh works. Neither of us like to clean....solution....cleaning lady. Dh dislikes mowing the lawn(as much as I dislike cleaning) solution....lawn man.
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That's just what I told my dh. I told him to hire a cleaner to come every week, not only to clean but also to plan the menus, do the grocery shopping, cook the meals, clean up after them, change the sheets, do the laundry, fold it, and put it away, and pitch in with the kids, i.e., see that they do their homework, pick up their rooms, practice their instruments, get off the phone once in a while, take care of the cats... and while they're at it, to get the kids off to their activities on time. Yes, and to make sure the garbage gets hauled to the dump, the bills get paid, and the yard work gets done. It would also be great if the cleaner took care of the car.
But for some reason, he just hasn't gotten around to it. Can't figure out if he's having trouble finding a cleaner who's up to it, or if he thinks it's my job to find one.
Sabina
Oh, lifeis a glorious cycle of song, a medley of extemporanea:
And love is a thing that can never go wrong; and I am Marie of Roumania.
Sabina
Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,
LOL!
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