Just a thought, but it seems like a lot of the debate is about what is best for the parents. Obviously it is important to have the parents happy, or else home life is going to be miserable for everyone, so this point isn't to be overlooked. I am just wondering if any of you looked into research about the effects of full time daycare, the research done about "latch key kids', etc, before making your choice. Personally, I feel that whatever choice is made it does need to be in the best interest of the whole family, not just the mothers and fathers. Once we bring these souls into the world, we need to take care of them, emotionally as well as physically.
It seems that from what I have read in physcological reports, it is better to have a parent be in the home. I know that there are families where this is not possible, due to single parenthood, or the need for two incomes. However, they have shown that children in daycare do become more aggressive, one reason why my friend who works in daycare can't wait to get her own child out of the system. She has seen it first hand.
What kinds of things did you look into when making your decision?