Which came first, the title or the SAHW?
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Which came first, the title or the SAHW?
| Fri, 12-19-2003 - 9:04am |
Last night I attended my husband's work Christmas party. I sat with the CEO, CFO, CTO, COO (Chief operations officer, I didn't know that acronym, I had to ask), Creative Director, Marketing Director and their wives. Near the end of the evening it was just we wives chatting mostly about kids. I made the observation that even though all the wives were intelligent, educated and accomplished women, not a single one (except me), woh. They are all SAHM's.
Any thoughts on why that might be? I have my own opinion but I'd like to hear from everyone else first. Do you think they sah because of their husbands jobs or their husbands have their jobs because the wives stay home? Or doesn't it matter?

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I'm also not saying that WOHMs don't have memories. Sheesh!
And yes, Annie, a person can earn an income and spend the majority of his/her time with a child. I did it for four years. Now that he's in school FT, I miss those days. And since it's vacation this week, we're going to that park we drove by today and are going to take a very long walk. We're also going to try and make it to the Salem Witch Museum. I *love* doing that stuff -- and am simply *thrilled* that he is old enough to want to do this stuff too.
outside_the_box_mom
I prefer to be with them instead of going to work.
I prefer not to have them daycare.
I prefer time with them over money.
My time at this point is worth far more than any extra money I could bring in. I happen to believe that my spending time with my kids DOES make a difference -- maybe not one I can put in a box and present to you as proof, but that's no matter to me.
There are monumental differences between what's important in your life and in mine.
I get so tired of the way this board seems to always boil down to economics. Am I the only one who is worried that maybe we are ALL too affluent? Even those of us who don't think they are, who are upset because they can't buy Junior the new Gameboy he so desperately desires? My parents didn't have much and I had a wonderful childhood. I think having money is actually creating an obstacle for me and my dh to raise our children the way we want. I cannot believe that people put such value on the things money can buy. Money can buy piano lessons but it doesn't buy musical talent. Money can buy the latest fashions but it doesn't buy a healthy body image. Money can buy children toys and games and gadgets but it doesn't sit on the floor to play them. Money can buy a fancy gift but it doesn't give great hugs.
Some of the happiest people I know are simply unconcerned about money. They are rich, they are poor, they are whatever. They have what they have but it is not who they are.
Thank you for continuing to swim against the tide. Sometimes reading this board can such the joy right out of ya, you know?
Edited 12/29/2003 8:12:17 PM ET by laurenmom2boys
So,I think many "She sah and now ,look,she doesn't make much" situations are more "She found a job she liked and worked well w/ her life,so she took it".
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Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
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