Which came first, the title or the SAHW?
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Which came first, the title or the SAHW?
| Fri, 12-19-2003 - 9:04am |
Last night I attended my husband's work Christmas party. I sat with the CEO, CFO, CTO, COO (Chief operations officer, I didn't know that acronym, I had to ask), Creative Director, Marketing Director and their wives. Near the end of the evening it was just we wives chatting mostly about kids. I made the observation that even though all the wives were intelligent, educated and accomplished women, not a single one (except me), woh. They are all SAHM's.
Any thoughts on why that might be? I have my own opinion but I'd like to hear from everyone else first. Do you think they sah because of their husbands jobs or their husbands have their jobs because the wives stay home? Or doesn't it matter?

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How is work going for you? Remember when you were still shuffling around trying to figure out what to do with yourself? Now you're a big bad WOHM!! I am so impressed at how well you are doing.
outside_the_box_mom
My childcare expenses went up each time i added a child...first dc with one child cost me $125 per week, then it was $200 per week (sibling discount) for 2 children, then it was $250 per week for a nanny for 3 children, now our current nanny gets over $400 per week (for a 35 hour week).
the reason we've been able to stay current with our increased expenses is that i continued to work and have had COL raises (and "step" raises) over the last 14 YEARS.
eileen
eileen
Yes, that's why I'm soooo confused. (?)
Maybe you should tell me your Meyers-Briggs type and then we can decide.......
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No problem.
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Ya know otbm..I start reading your posts and I think yeah she's got a point and then you have to throw in some insulting comment about day care.
The reason I said I'm not motivated by money is because I'm not. My motivation comes from learning, books, love of knowledge and a high need for recognition (a high salary won't do it). As soon as I saw that on the assessment feedback, everything clicked into place for me with regards to my own personal journey and money. I no longer have a dishonest relationship with money, and now I know how it fits into my life and personal value system. It's very freeing, I must say.
You said once before you could never live my life. But what you have never understood is that I'm working for many of the same goals you are, especially with regards to financial security. I just don't think I'll find them in the corporate sphere nor do I want to get there the "traditional" way. I probably won't get to my financial goals as fast as you, either, because I enjoy taking risks. That is why I left CA to start a new life, opened my own business, had a child "out of wedlock" etc. All were risks but all have paid enormous dividends in terms of personal growth. I wouldn't change a thing on how I got here. For the first time in my life, my path is open, straight, and true. It's a nice feeling.
Peace to you.
outside_the_box_mom
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