Which came first, the title or the SAHW?

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Which came first, the title or the SAHW?
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Fri, 12-19-2003 - 9:04am
Last night I attended my husband's work Christmas party. I sat with the CEO, CFO, CTO, COO (Chief operations officer, I didn't know that acronym, I had to ask), Creative Director, Marketing Director and their wives. Near the end of the evening it was just we wives chatting mostly about kids. I made the observation that even though all the wives were intelligent, educated and accomplished women, not a single one (except me), woh. They are all SAHM's.

Any thoughts on why that might be? I have my own opinion but I'd like to hear from everyone else first. Do you think they sah because of their husbands jobs or their husbands have their jobs because the wives stay home? Or doesn't it matter?

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Tue, 12-30-2003 - 10:19am
That may be what you are saying NOW, but it's not what you said before. What you said before is that SAHMs are sitting on their butts all day while their kids look for somewhere else to hang out. When you realized how awful and judgemental that sounded you backtracked and decided that you wanted to say something else.

Jenna

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Tue, 12-30-2003 - 10:21am
actually, mine never watched movies in Dc. we have just about every one of those "stupid Disney movies"...we love them and watch them often as a FAMILY. In fact, just bought and watched Freaky Friday last week (and we loved it in the theater too).

eileen

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Tue, 12-30-2003 - 10:26am
pooh it all you like, the fact of the matter is, when there is a sahp, there is a person who has 40-60 more hours every week to do all those tasks that wohps have to squeeze in after work.

Of course wohps maintain their homes and run errands, that's just the point, they have to do that IN ADDITION to working fulltime. If there is a sahp, they can take care of all those things, freeing up the entire family in the evenings.

You can put any spin you want on it, it's a fact that a couple working outside the home 80-120 hours combined a week has a hell of a lot less time than a couple woh 40-60 hours combined a week.

And if you've never done the routine of "I stayed home with Johnny last time he was sick, I've got a presentation, it's your turn", "No, I've got to be in Atlanta, I can't stay home with him", then I wonder if you even have children. It's not a breeze.

Yes, have it your way, having a sahp takes no slack off family. Ha! Good one.

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Tue, 12-30-2003 - 10:30am

Oh I have nothing against "stupid" Disney movies.

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Tue, 12-30-2003 - 10:33am
we LOVED Finding Nemo -- much of the more "adult" humor went right over the kids' heads. Have you seen Brother Bear? It's a wonderful story -- a completely fresh, new tale. we all loved it.

eileen

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Tue, 12-30-2003 - 10:38am
As has been pointed out before, the house gets messier when its occupied all day. Therefore, there is more cleaning to be done.

Also, I try to do errands during my lunch hour as do many people.

Also, more time doesnt necessarily mean more productive. When I was in high school, I was a mediocre student. When, I turned 16, I got a part time job. My parents were concerned that my already mediocre grades might go down. As it turned out, my grades increased significantly. I made the most of my time becuase I knew it was more limited.
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Tue, 12-30-2003 - 10:43am

I can't imagine charging $1000 a month for an infant.

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Tue, 12-30-2003 - 10:45am

Nope haven't seen it but I'm sure when it comes out on video I'll be adding it to my collection. :-)


Sue

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Tue, 12-30-2003 - 10:47am
not necessarily. i'll go you one better. i have a cleaning lady once per week. my nanny does light housekeeping (kids' laundry, dishes, straightening, changing beds, etc.). additionally, i have discovered grocery delivery -- man, that is THE BEST service available. It only costs $5 and they have numerous delivery times available (of course, i can have it delivered at work because my nanny is here). Once my account was set up, it only takes minutes to go through the site and put the list together -- and they keep the payment information on file -- all i have to do when i'm done is click "check out" and my groceries will be delivered the next day.

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as for this i got to a point where i just didn't argue anymore -- until recently. it was always understood that i would be the one to stay home then. however, there WERE things that came up at work, especially now that i'm a team leader that cause me to turn around to dh and require that HE help out -- and he knows that if i ask, i have NO choice and MUST go in (even if it's for a very short time). Lately, in fact, we've done the split-shift thing then -- he'll stay home in the morning and i'll come home by about 1:30. It means we BOTH love our children and at times, have to balance that against work responsibilities.

eileen

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Tue, 12-30-2003 - 11:08am
More money wouldn't BE a benefit over time spent at this point. Can you give me some examples of what you think they might be lacking because I don't bring in more money?

And how did YOUR kids do during the time you spent as a SAHM, denying them the benefits of your working?

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